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Answers to All Your Questions about Single People and Single Life

I have been writing about single people and single life for many years. During that time, I have probably written on just about every relevant topic (except dating and other attempts to become unsingle). I put together collections of links to articles about more than 30 different topics. You can find all of them here, or you can go directly to the particular topics that interest you by clicking the relevant links below.
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Two’s a Crowd: Living Together When You Really Want to Live Apart

During the years I spent interviewing people about their lifespaces, and what they loved most about how they lived, I expected to find the most compelling accounts of the joys of living alone from single people living by themselves. And they did have some insightful things to say. But also among the most elegant spokespersons for what makes a place of one's own so attractive were the people I interviewed who were committed couples (sometimes married) who were living in places of their own. They were doing so not because external circumstances (such as jobs in different cities) forced their hands, but because they just really wanted their own space. Their stories are in How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century.

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50th Wedding Anniversary: Is It an Accomplishment? Guest Post by Kristin Noreen

[Bella's intro: It has always bothered me when people heap such high praise and applause on people who stay married for a long time when other significant relationships are not similarly valued. I wrote about one example of that here previously. Recently, in the Community of Single People, Kristin Noreen asked whether a lengthy marriage should qualify as an accomplishment. I thought Kristin's post was written in a careful and a compelling way. I liked it a lot. But it got a lot of push-back. I asked Kristin if she wanted to share her argument here, and respond to the reactions it elicited. Happily, she agreed. Thanks, Kristin!]

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Why Unmarried Status Is a Diversity Issue

[This is the second part of a 2-part article making the case that unmarried status is a diversity issue. The first part, "Is your workplace fair to people who are not married?," included the sections I The Script that Remains Powerful, Even as Fewer People Actually Follow It, and II An Example of a Workplace that Prides Itself on Valuing Diversity, But Offered Only Dismissiveness toward Unmarried Employees.]

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Is Your Workplace Fair to People Who Are Not Married?

When you think about diversity, you probably don't think about people who are not married. Unmarried status, though, is a diversity issue. In this first of a two-part article, based on my latest column at Unmarried Equality, I present the issue and introduce an example of an employee who tried, unsuccessfully, to make the case for the importance of valuing single people in his organization. In the second part, I will explain why unmarried status is a diversity issue, and what taking that seriously would involve.

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Single by Choice and Single at Heart: Is There a Difference?

The name of this blog, "Single at Heart," refers to a set of single people who, culturally, are almost entirely invisible. They are the single people for whom living single is how they live their best, most authentic, most meaningful lives.

You may have heard people say that being single is better than being in a bad marriage. Well, for people who are single at heart, being single is better than being in a good marriage.

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If You Live More Than a Few Hours Drive from Mom, You are the Exception

When I traveled around the country to interview people for How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century, I met quite a few people who lived very close to their mothers, or lived with them. My sample was not a representative one, so at first I didn't know what to make of that. But when I did research into nationwide trends and statistics, I found that one of our popular beliefs – that America is a mobile society that is only becoming more mobile over time – is actually a myth.

The New York Times took a look at some of the same kinds of data, and came up with some intriguing conclusions. For example:

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Why Study Single People?

For nearly two decades, I have been researching and writing about people who are single. It is a real passion for me. Yet some people – including some single people – recoil at the thought. Why should single people be examined as if they are some bug under a microscope, or some exotic species separate from other humans?

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Your Perfect Life: What Would It Look Like?

We all know that no one's life can ever be perfect, but it can't hurt to dream. And what better time than now, with the New Year approaching. Reassessing and re-envisioning your life can happen any time at all, but there is something about starting a fresh new year that seems to welcome that reflection even more.

There are so many potential components of an ideal life that you might like to consider. Here are a few.

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