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The Psychology of Plagiarism: 3 Ways People End Up with Their Own Name on Someone Else’s Words

One time many years ago, when I was teaching at the University of Virginia, I got this distinct feeling of familiarity while reading a student’s paper. I thought I had read the passage somewhere else, but at first, I just couldn’t place it. Then I realized why it was familiar: I had written it myself. After class the next day, I asked the student to stay for a moment to talk to me. I told him the words he has deposited into his paper were my own, and asked him why he did that. He thought for a moment, then said, “Well, it was just so well-stated, I couldn’t think of a better way to put it.”
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Would Anyone Join a Singles Community that Has Nothing to Do with Dating? Oh, Yes!

What would happen if you invited single people to join an online community all about living single life fully, joyfully, and unapologetically, with no discussions whatsoever about dating or mating or other attempts to become unsingle? Would anyone even join? If people did join, would the group last? I issued just such an invitation a year ago (on July 9, 2015), right here at my “Single at Heart” blog.
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Is the Season of Celebrations Getting You Down?

The beginning of summer is just one of those times of year when it seems that everyone is celebrating. It is wedding season, so friends and family are celebrating their marriages (and, if you are old enough, the grown kids of your friends and family members are also celebrating). It is graduation season, so again, all the graduates you know (or parents of graduates) are celebrating, too. If you’ve never married or had kids, do you feel left out and a little down in the midst of all this merry-making? I think it depends a bit on what you wanted from your life. If you really wanted to marry, if you really wanted to have kids and celebrate all their accomplishments with them, then this season must really hurt.
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8 Ways 30-Year-Olds Are Different Now Than They Were 40 Years Ago

Are 30-year olds all that different now than they were nearly half a century ago? In some ways, they really are. That’s what the Census Bureau just told us in a report comparing 30-year-olds in 1975 vs. 2015. The characteristics assessed in the report were education, job status, income, homeownership, marital status, parental status, living arrangements, and enrollment in school. If you want to test your own knowledge or intuition about these matters, don’t read any further until you’ve thought about your answers: How do the 30-year-olds from 1975 and 2015 differ the most and how do they differ the least?
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Two of the Profound Rewards of Staying Single

Do you like your single life? Settle into it. Research suggests that it can be rewarding in ways you rarely hear about. There's a lot of angst these days about the growing numbers of people living single, and especially about young adults who routinely reach the age of 30 without ever having married. By one respectable estimate, one out of every four of today's young adults will reach 50 as a lifelong single person. Many of their parents are freaking out. Some of the young adults who want to marry are also on edge. My hope for all of us is that we get to pursue the life paths we want, whatever they may be. But I think we have an overly anxious and pessimistic view of lifelong singlehood, and I say that based on data. There is not nearly as much research as there should be on single life, and not all of it is as up-to-date as I would like, but there are some telling findings.
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Taiwan’s New President Disparaged for Being Single: Guess What Happened Next

For the first time ever, the President of Taiwan is a woman. The 59-year old Tsai Ing-wen is also single. That did not sit well with a Chinese military official, who believed that her single status rendered her "erratic": "As a single female politician, Tsai Ing-wen does not have the emotional burden of love of 'family' or children, so her political style and strategies are displayed to be more emotional, personal and extreme."
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More Young Adults Are Living with Parents Than Partners, But Another Trend Is Even More Significant

Perhaps you've seen the headlines from the latest Pew Report. For the first time since at least as far back as 1880, more young adults are living with their parents than in any other arrangement. For well over a century, up until now, the most popular way to live among 18- to 34-year olds had been to live with a spouse or partner.

The report highlights data from 1880, 1940,...
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Let’s Talk about Brain Health and Brain Illness Instead of Mental Health and Mental Illness

Getting mental illnesses taken as seriously as physical ones has been a long-lasting struggle. Medical insurance hasn't always covered mental health treatments the way it routinely covers treatments for physical problems. And too often, uninformed laypersons assume that seriously depressed people, for example, should be able to just snap out of it. In part because of the assumption that mental health is under our conscious control in a way that physical health is not, people suffering from mental health problems are more likely to be stigmatized. And that stigma, in turn, can stand in the way of seeking the help that is needed.
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