Recently, I started talking about a new book, Carlin Flora’s Friendfluence: The surprising ways friends make us who we are. Take a look at those introductory thoughts, and then continue reading here.
This post (as well as the one with my introductory thoughts) is a revised version of what I originally wrote. The new version takes into account some feedback I got from Carlin in several emails. She did not ask me to make these revisions; I decided that myself.
The chapter, “The incredible perks of friendship,” included this excerpt on how friends “enhance romance”:
“Friends are often cast in opposition to lovers, but they turn out to fuel love more often than obstruct it. Friends, in fact, are particularly good at finding you someone new: They introduce people to 35 to 40 percent of their sexual partners. That said, young adults often ditch friends as soon as they take up with a new guy or girl, but Meliksah Demir warns that while a supportive romantic partner can have a greater effect on happiness for ‘emerging adults’ than her parents or friends can, as soon as she’s single, her friends are what determines her level of contentment. So keep your friends around, in case the flames of passion die down.”