One of the true joys of blogging is getting to know your readers. Some participate in discussions of blog posts and others send me their stories. Karl Wiebe has done both. In fact, something he wrote to me a while back was an inspiration for a previous post about making friends when you are single that has been viewed thousands of times.
Karl recently shared with me some of his experiences living single for nearly five years after more than twice that long living married.
My interview with him is below.
Karl has also written a book called First and Life. I haven’t read it yet but I’m looking forward to it. My guess after interviewing Karl is that the book will be quite witty! You can also learn more about Karl Wiebe from his website.
Bella: I’m always curious about how people start reading about single life from the perspective of living that life fully rather than just trying to become unsingle. So if you will humor me, will you tell me how someone who was married for more than a decade discovered blogs and books about single life?
Karl Wiebe: Well, I’m a guy in my mid-thirties (okay, okay, almost forty). I found myself suddenly single in 2008 after a decade or so of being married. I was struggling to find my own identity – I had spent my entire adult life being part of a couple. It was like the guy from North Korea sneaking across the border and discovering that other people in the world have meat in their soup. It was a bit of culture shock. I bought your book and loved it.
My mom is also single and lives in the Yukon (near Alaska). It’s actually near Santa’s workshop because it is -20 all the time and I’m convinced the only reason someone would live up there is to actually build toys for poor kids. Anyway, you (and the readers) provided some different ways for my mom to meet people and do fun stuff. It was really refreshing to have a blog that acknowledges both the positives and the (sometimes) negatives of being single. Being single can be liberating but sometimes it can get lonely too, and it is OK to talk about that without discounting that this is the right life choice for a lot of people.