If you have been reading this blog for a while, you know me – I love data. A just-published study provides lots of that. In fact, the author (Thomas Leopold) studied nearly 15,000 pairs of adults and their grown children, from 15 countries. That means we can get beyond our own cultural and personal beliefs about the way things should be, and see how things actually are.
We can learn whether different patterns of leaving home really do matter.
In this post, I’ll share the basics: the average age at which grown children leave home in the 15 countries; the average distance they put between their new place and their parents’ place; and how that distance varies depending on how soon they fly the coop. Then in the second of this two-part series, I’ll describe the implications of staying longer in your parents’ home for your relationship with your parents down the road.
The data are from a project called “SHARE,” in which the participants were representative samples of the population, ages 50 and older, from 14 European countries plus Israel. On the average, the participants (the parents in the study) were 68 years old and their grown children were 40. They entered the study between 2004 and 2007.
Here are the average ages at which grown children left the family home. The country in which children left home at the youngest age is listed first (that’s Denmark), and so on to the country in which children stayed home the longest (Italy).
Age of leaving home
23.2 Czech Republic
Distance (in kilometers) of grown child’s home from parents’ home
(1 kilometer = .621 miles)
42.4 Czech Republic
Next, the researcher divided the grown children into five groups, ranging from the earliest to leave home to the latest. He calculated how far from their parents, on the average, the adult children in each group lived. Again, distance is in kilometers.
74.0 Earliest to leave
57.8 Early to leave
52.1 Average age of leaving home for their country
49.2 Late to leave home
42.4 Latest to leave home
As you can see from what I’ve presented so far, there is a lot of variability from one country to another in the age at which grown children leave their parents’ home, and the distance they relocate. Generally, those who leave home the latest stay closest, geographically, to their parents.
What are the implications for other kinds of closeness, such as staying in touch with your parents, supporting them in practical ways and receiving support from them? Scholars who think about these matters in different ways have different predictions.
In my next post, I’ll tell you what the results really do show.
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From Psych Central's website:
Leaving Home Sooner or Later: What Does It Mean for Your Relationship with Your Parents Down the Road? | Single at Heart (June 30, 2012)
To Root or Stake Down? | Mind Over Things That Matter (July 29, 2014)
Last reviewed: 28 Jun 2012