Leaving Home Sooner or Later: What Does It Mean for Your Relationship with Your Parents Down the Road?
The sooner you leave the parental nest, the farther you fly. Those are the results I told you about last time. A wide-ranging study of nearly 15,000 parents and their grown children, from 15 countries, was just published. The implications of leaving home early or late for geographical closeness are quite clear. But what about other kinds of closeness?
If you think the answer to that question is obvious, then you are probably blissfully removed from academic debates. Those scholars who believe in “classical life course theory” predict that young adults who stay with their parents “too long” are at risk for a world of trouble.
First, those kids are off schedule. They are not doing what everyone else is doing, at the same time as everyone else. They are “failing” in their transition to the role of a real adult. They are a burden on their parents – interfering with their preferences and “disrupting other relationships and activities.”
In the popular press, those late-leavers are chided as lazy and greedy.