Coping Strategies

Tweet All You Want


It's the post tweet, post truth, post modern, post full-sentences, post Trump era. NOTHING MATTERS.
Tell that to the young women standing in DC. Tell that to the young women in pink at the UN, at Trump Plaza in Charlotte NC and all over these US of A.

Apparently no one is standing down for abuse, xenophobia or misogyny. You may have even voted for him or skipped voting this year. Well wait til they take away your...
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The Logic of Staying Up All Night – 8 ways to zzzz

Sleep

... you're up all night texting your BFF. Your parents took your phone but you have a used iPod and secret WiFi access. You've been up for two days straight. You bombed the bio mid-term and you don't give a shit. You're too tired to cut yourself or inflict self-harm but you're too awake to put the phone down. Your feelings of confusion are overwhelming and intolerable.  What if your friend, Zak, texted...
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Find Your Friends: 4 Reasons Not To

Real Friends?

If you're a teenager or young adult with an iPhone, finding friends takes "literally" about one second.  See where they eat, drink, and make merry. All without you!  Isn't that a form of torture??

In my life I have always been sensitive to being left out. So much so that I invite others compulsively even when I don't want them there.  At some point in children's high school careers they realize that...
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Resolutions 1-5 About Your Phone

OK here comes the list for me and all my teenage clients and


Obsessed with checking
1. Stop checking to see where your friends are. Why? Because feeling excluded reinforces your negativity bias that you are somehow unworthy. People do get left out for many reasons both children and adults. I hate it so much that I often invite people I don't even like so I won't...
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F.O.M.O. for All of Us


The Facebook posts are scrolling by with everyone's vacations, including family members sipping cocktails at the pool, spa, beach, resort and ski chalet.  I've had it.  I mean I have had it; years of nice vacations, etc.  But when the recession set in and then in sickness and health, some of my family members grew too weak to travel, those days were gone.  It hurts that the rich got richer.  It's harder still to...
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Loss. Fear. Hope.

Loss. Today would be my Mother's 78th bday. Warm and sweet with a love of people of all races, colors and walks of life, my mom liked chocolate, diet soda, and Italian food. My Mother suffered from scoliosis, left-handedness and a little dyslexia. Preferring to do most chores backwards, she managed to get two masters degrees, be a great teacher and friend, and a single mom who would go to any lengths for her kids and...
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