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Pornography

New Study Links Compulsive Porn Abuse and Sexual Dysfunction


A recent study by Aline Wéry and Joel Billieux, both from the Université Catholique de Louvain, published in the journal, Computers in Human Behavior, sheds light on the characteristics, usage patterns, motives, and consequences of addictive online sexual activity.

Wéry and Billieux conducted a large-scale online study of French speaking men recruited on a university messaging service, social networks, research networks, and sexuality related forums. Anonymity of participants was guaranteed in an effort to achieve more...
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Pornography

Can Women Get Addicted to Porn?

Do Women Even Look at Porn?
It’s no secret that the Internet is bursting at the seams with pornography, and lots of people are looking at it. For instance, research conducted in 2009 and 2010 by neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam analyzed 400 million Internet searches (representing more than 2 million people), finding that approximately 55 million of those searches (13%) sought some form of erotic content. And this analysis didn’t include...
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Sex Addiction Treatment

Naked in Public: An Interview with Therapist and Author Staci Sprout

I have long argued that the literature and treatment protocols for sexual addiction are heavily skewed toward male clients – as if it is only men who act out sexually. At least part of this shortcoming arises from the fact that female sex addicts are less likely than their male counterparts to seek direct help for a sexual problem, which makes them harder...
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Sex & Technology

Recovery from Cybersex Addiction: Part Three – Tips on Using Cybersex Boundary Plans

As discussed in my previous posting to this site and in my recently published book, Always Turned On: Sex Addiction in the Digital Age, coauthored with Dr. Jennifer Schneider, the definition of cybersex sobriety and the content of cybersex boundary plans both vary according to the needs and life circumstances of the addict in question. That said, whatever the definition of sobriety and whatever the boundaries in a particular addict’s plan, the purpose is to hold the addict accountable to his or her commitments – particularly when faced with challenging life circumstances, emotional pain and other powerful triggers.
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Recovery from Cybersex Addiction: Part Two – Defining and Creating a Plan for Sobriety

Manny is a 43-year-old cybersex addicted construction worker. Fifteen months ago he started going to Sex Addicts Anonymous meetings. For the next year, his behaviors did not change and his life actually got worse rather than better. Finally, in desperation, he asked another member of the program for help, and he was assigned the task of creating a personalized definition of sexual sobriety and then a boundary plan for future sexual behaviors. Almost immediately, the program began to work for him. He says, “In my head, I knew what I needed to change and how I needed to change it. But somehow I always ended up fooling myself and relapsing. I would just find a way to rationalize that going back online for sex was OK, just this once, even though I knew it wasn’t. After I finally wrote down what my problems were, and clearly stated which online behaviors were not acceptable, I had some ‘official’ clarity and my life started to get a lot better.
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The Sex Addicted Client: General Advice for Clinicians

Do You Speak Sex? Treating sexual addiction is not for the squeamish. Sex addicts, if and when they become honest in therapy, often relate harrowing tales of abuse and acting out. Many have engaged in sexual activities that even a seasoned prostir careers, their homes, their tute would blush to hear about, and they’ve often done so with more partners than they can count. They’ve put themselves, their spouses, their sexual hookup partners, theihealth, their children, and so much more at risk—all for a quick and ultimately meaningless sexual fix. Many were either covertly or overtly sexually abused in childhood and/or adolescence, sometimes repeatedly and horrifically. They may also have a concurrent addiction, usually some form of substance abuse but occasionally another behavioral addiction or even an eating disorder (especially among women), and this too can lead the client into episodes of traumatic experience and bad behavior.
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Narcissism, Porn Use, and Addiction

Proof that Porn Users are Narcissistic Any clinician who treats sex and porn addicts on a regular basis can tell you that our clients, both male and female, tend to be highly narcissistic - a quality that often makes for a tempestuous therapist-client relationship. Simply put, evidence from the field strongly suggests that sex and porn addicts are nearly always self-centered and self-absorbed, often to an extreme degree, not only sexually but elsewhere in their lives. Of course, it’s nice to have scientific research that backs up what we typically see in our practices, and a recent study, Narcissism & Internet Pornography Use, accepted for publication in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, does exactly that.
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With No Formal Diagnosis or Treatment Plans, How Can Sex Addiction Exist?

After more than twenty years spent treating, speaking about, and writing about sexual addiction, I’ve heard all the arguments (and then some) both in favor of and against utilizing an addiction-focused model of diagnosis and treatment to identify and help individuals who self-report repetitive, problematic patterns of impulsive and/or compulsive sexual behavior. For the most part, those who believe that sexual addiction (also known as sexual compulsivity and hypersexual disorder) is simply a myth tend to offer some combination of the five challenges presented below. I thought it might be both interesting and useful to examine the validity/reality of these concerns here.
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Linking Sexual Shame and Addiction

Flawed, Defective, Unworthy of Love and Happiness It’s no great secret that most alcoholics, drug addicts, and behavioral addicts live with deeply felt feelings of shame. In fact, shame is nearly always part of the underlying matrix of psychological conditions that can typically lead to addiction. In short, shame leads to extreme emotional discomfort and the gnawing belief that one is inherently flawed, defective, and unworthy of love. These feelings can in turn lead to depression, severe anxiety, and lifelong challenges with intimacy and relationships. And all of the above can create a powerful desire to escape and dissociate via the use of addictive substances and/or behaviors. Over time, a pattern of self-medicating life stressors and emotional discomfort in this fashion can easily escalate to full-fledged addiction, with all of the usual negative life consequences.
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Effective (and Ineffective) Treatments for Sexual Offenders

Are Sex Offenders Treatable? Last week I wrote about clinician prejudice toward sexual offenders. As part of that writing I introduced the four main categories of sexual offenders: Violent offenders Fixated child offenders Regressed child offenders Sexually addicted offenders I also mentioned the some of the most damaging misconceptions that most people, including many psychotherapy professionals, have about sex offenders. All sex offenders are treatable. No sex offenders are treatable. All sex offenders are sociopaths None of these beliefs is correct. The reality is that most but not all sex offenders can benefit from proper treatment. In fact, the recidivism rate is actually quite low, provided the offender is paired with the most effective form of treatment. It’s all about good assessment and knowing who needs what and when.
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