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Linking Sexual Shame and Addiction

Flawed, Defective, Unworthy of Love and Happiness

It’s no great secret that most alcoholics, drug addicts, and behavioral addicts live with deeply felt feelings of shame. In fact, shame is nearly always part of the underlying matrix of psychological conditions that can typically lead to addiction. In short, shame leads to extreme emotional discomfort and the gnawing belief that one is inherently flawed, defective, and unworthy of love. These feelings can in turn lead to depression, severe anxiety, and lifelong challenges with intimacy and relationships. And all of the above can create a powerful desire to escape and dissociate via the use of addictive substances and/or behaviors. Over time, a pattern of self-medicating life stressors and emotional discomfort in this fashion can easily escalate to full-fledged addiction, with all of the usual negative life consequences.
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Effective (and Ineffective) Treatments for Sexual Offenders

Are Sex Offenders Treatable?

Last week I wrote about clinician prejudice toward sexual offenders. As part of that writing I introduced the four main categories of sexual offenders:

Violent offenders
Fixated child offenders
Regressed child offenders
Sexually addicted offenders

I also mentioned the some of the most damaging misconceptions that most people, including many psychotherapy professionals, have about sex offenders.

All sex offenders are treatable.
No sex offenders are treatable.
All sex offenders are sociopaths

None of these beliefs is correct. The reality is that most but not all sex offenders can benefit from proper treatment. In fact, the recidivism rate is actually quite low, provided the offender is paired with the most effective form of treatment. It’s all about good assessment and knowing who needs what and when.
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Sex Addiction Treatment: Addressing Hypersexual Behavior in a Rehab Setting

Hardly a day goes by without the national media trotting out the problem sexual misbehavior of some politician, sports star, actor, or religious leader. Oftentimes, within a few days or weeks we hear that same person is “entering treatment” for sexual addiction. This begs the question: What is sexual addiction treatment?

Generally speaking, well-rounded sexual addiction treatment mirrors in many ways the structure and techniques that have proven highly effective in drug and alcohol addiction treatment—focusing on breaking through denial, managing the crisis or crises that drove the person to seek help, social learning, cognitive behavioral therapy, group therapy, relapse prevention, etc. Depending on the individual being treated, the work may center on the person’s immediate life circumstances in an attempt to determine (and find healthy ways to control) the various triggers to his or her sexual acting out. Other addicts, while still needing to learn how to contain their sexual behavior, may have a greater need and ability to work though various forms of past trauma and emotional reactivity—challenges that oftentimes have been lifelong concerns. For all individuals, once sexual sobriety has been established, all useful clinical methods are on the table: art therapy, traditional cognitive behavioral therapy and relapse prevention work, social learning models, equine and experiential work, EMDR, somatic therapies, the support of 12-step meetings, etc.
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The Narcissism of Sex Addicts and Some Strategies for Therapists

Guest post by: Linda Hatch PhD, CSAT, www.sexaddictionscounseling.com

Narcissism Equals Low Self-Esteem

A majority of sex addicts behave in ways that are seen by others as narcissistic. Narcissistic personality traits are often described in terms such as grandiosity, self-centeredness and over-entitlement. This suggests the narcissist has an inflated sense of self-worth. In fact the opposite is true.

Most narcissism is actually a defense system. The narcissist has acquired a façade of superiority and self-sufficiency as a defense against unconscious feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. This defense is often bolstered by career success or being prominent in the community. This self-image is flimsy and superficial, but it is felt by the narcissist-addict to be his or her true self.

As such, this false self protects the addict from experiencing his or her vast reservoir of unhappiness and insecurity.
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