Addictions Articles

Intervention: Getting Addicts into Treatment

Tuesday, June 10th, 2014

Intervention: Getting Addicts into TreatmentThe Client

Margaret, a 29-year-old married mother of two preschool aged children, starts in therapy at the insistence of her husband, Jason, who wants her to stop drinking and popping pills. In the first session, she tells you there is nothing wrong with her behaviors, and it’s her husband who’s off-base. “He expects me to be this perfect little 1950s housewife. He doesn’t understand that women like that just don’t exist. I’m only coming to therapy to get him off my back.” And quietly, just before the session ends, she says, “You can refill my valium prescription, right?”


Addiction: Nature versus Nurture

Thursday, March 20th, 2014

Addiction: Nature versus NurtureTwo Kids, One Bottle, Vastly Different Response

Best friends Eric and Thomas are 14 years old. They are from upper-middle-class families. They make good grades, play sports, and are getting interested in girls. At their eighth grade graduation Thomas tells Eric that his older brother has invited them to an end-of-school party. They know they’re only being invited so Thomas won’t rat on his brother for being at a party where kids are drinking, but they don’t care because they’re invited to their first-ever high school party. As a further inducement to silence, Thomas receives a bottle of rum from his older sibling.


When Parenting Your Kids, How Much Tech is Too Much Tech?

Wednesday, March 5th, 2014

When Parenting Your Kids, How Much Tech is Too Much Tech?Just the Facts

If you’ve got kids or grandchildren, you know that they love technology. They’ve got televisions, gaming consoles, and laptops in their bedrooms, pads and tablets in their book-bags, iPods and smartphones in their pockets. And wherever they are, whenever they are, no matter how old they are, they are probably using one or more of these devices. In fact, one well-researched study estimates that children between the ages of 8 and 18 spend 11.5 hours per day using various forms of digital technology. Since most kids are awake only 15 or 16 hours per day, somewhere between 71 and 76 percent of the typical young child’s day is digital. And, let’s face it, this 24/7 tech-fest usually kicks in well before the study’s low-end cutoff age of 8.


Spotting Active Addiction in Friends, Family, and Clients

Thursday, January 16th, 2014

Addiction: The Myth

Spotting Active Addiction in Friends, Family, and ClientsAddicts are very easy to spot. They are those dirty, smelly, unkempt men hanging out under bridges, in front of convenience stores, in back alleys, and in all the other unsavory places that “healthy” people never go. Addicts sleep in the gutter. Addicts get arrested a lot. Addicts are completely estranged from their families. Addicts definitely do not have jobs. Nor do they have friends.

Addiction: The Reality

Only about 10 percent of addicts fall into the easily identified “low bottom” stereotype described above. The other 90 percent are people that most of us deal with in our day-to-day lives, often regularly, without our knowing about their addiction. This is because the vast majority of addicts work very hard to hide their problem, be it alcoholism, drug addiction, or a behavioral addiction like eating, shopping, gambling, or sex. The simple truth is most addicts are functional for long periods of time, maintaining jobs and even marriages while keeping their problem relatively hidden.


Behavioral Addictions: A Basic Understanding

Wednesday, January 8th, 2014

Who is the Addict?

Behavioral Addictions: A Basic Understanding

Devon is 22 years old. He started drinking alcohol and smoking pot in his early teens. At first this was a way to socialize, but soon he was isolating in his bedroom with the door locked – getting high, listening to music, and playing video games. His grades dropped, he fell away from his friends, and he lost interest in sports, girls, and other activities. Now he has no money, his family is no longer willing to support his drug habit, and the only people he hangs out with are also heavy drug users.

Jane is 51 years old and married. She first went to a casino while in Las Vegas on her second honeymoon at the age of 49. There, she sat with her new husband Jon at the blackjack table placing $2 bets with him, laughing and joking whether they won or lost. After the honeymoon Jane and Jon returned to the East Coast and he went back to his demanding job, leaving her alone at home during the day. To pass the time she started playing online poker. Before she knew it, she was gambling all the time, ignoring both the household and Jon. Recently, Jon learned that she had depleted their retirement accounts and run up $100,000 in credit card bills. Now he’s threatening to leave her.

Interestingly, Devon’s family knows exactly what to do with him. They want to send him to rehab for substance abuse treatment. Whether Devon is willing to go, and to participate in recovery once there, is another story entirely, and one that is outside the scope of this blog. The point is that it’s clear to everyone (including Devon) that he is an addict and needs outside assistance if he’s ever going to get his life on track. On the other hand, Jane’s husband Jon is completely at a loss. He just can’t understand what has happened to the bright, funny, smart, and sensible woman he married. The best plan he can come up with is to tell her, “If you don’t stop wasting money, I’m leaving you.”


Men, Addiction Treatment, and Sex: An Interview with Dan Griffin (Part Two)

Thursday, October 31st, 2013

Men, Addiction Treatment, and Sex: An Interview with Dan Griffin (Part Two)Dan Griffin is a mental health and addictions treatment specialist working in Minneapolis, MN. He has been in the field for nearly 20 years. Currently he does fulltime training, consulting with treatment programs throughout the country, primarily about re-conceptualizing and redesigning treatment for men. At the inaugural Males, Trauma, and Addiction Summit in May of 2013, Dan helped craft the Eight Agreements regarding males, trauma, and addiction treatment. Additionally, he is the author of A Man’s Way through the Twelve Steps, and co-author, with Stephanie Covington and Rick Dauer, of Helping Men Recover, the first trauma-informed curriculum to specifically deal with men’s unique issues and needs. I recently spoke with Dan about his groundbreaking work, and I wanted to share his thoughts here. This is part two of a two-part blog. Part one, focusing on trauma, can be found here. This second portion talks more about male sexuality and addressing that concept in treatment.


Men, Addiction Treatment, and Trauma: An Interview with Dan Griffin

Wednesday, October 23rd, 2013

Men, Addiction Treatment, and Trauma: An Interview with Dan Griffin Dan Griffin is a mental health and addictions treatment specialist working in Minneapolis, MN. He has been in the treatment world for nearly 20 years. Currently he does fulltime training, consulting with major addiction treatment programs, primarily about re-conceptualizing and redesigning treatment to suit the specialized needs of men. At the inaugural Males, Trauma, and Addiction Summit in May of 2013, Dan helped craft the Eight Agreements regarding males, trauma, and addiction treatment. Additionally, he is the author of A Man’s Way through the Twelve Steps, and co-author, with Stephanie Covington and Rick Dauer, of Helping Men Recover, the first trauma-informed curriculum to specifically deal with men’s unique issues and needs. I recently interviewed Dan about his groundbreaking work, and I wanted to share his thoughts here. This is part one of a two-part post.


Is “Thanks for Sharing” an Accurate Portrayal of Sex and Love Addiction?

Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
Is “Thanks for Sharing” an Accurate Portrayal of Sex and Love Addiction?

Publicity photos courtesy of Roadside Attractions

The Film

Some readers may remember the film Shame, released in 2011. Shame was a gritty portrayal of an active sex addict (Michael Fassbender). The movie was wonderfully accurate in its depiction of sexual addiction. However, because it only showed an active addict at his nadir, it was somewhat difficult to watch, even for sex addicts. And non-addicted viewers often walked away shocked and appalled by what they’d seen. Now we have a new sex and love addiction themed film, Thanks for Sharing, released last weekend. Rather than focusing on active addiction, Thanks for Sharing examines the next step in the process – recovery, sobriety, and the pathway toward sexual/romantic health. Happily, the film is every bit as accurate in its portrayal as Shame was – quite a feat when one considers how generally misunderstood sexual and romantic disorders are – while also being entertaining and easy to watch.


When Substance Abuse and Intimacy Issues Are Linked

Wednesday, August 21st, 2013

When Substance Abuse and Intimacy Issues Are LinkedAddiction and Intimacy Don’t Mix

Perhaps it’s no surprise that many addicts in early recovery are challenged by the need to invigorate and grow healthy relationship intimacy of all types (sponsors, friends, family, etc.) After all, alcoholism and drug addiction are diseases of isolation, secrecy, and dissociation. In other words, people who consistently abuse substances do so not because they’re looking to connect and engage; rather, they do so to escape from the discomfort of life and relationships. Think of the alcoholic who is miserable socializing at a party until he is drunk enough to put the proverbial lampshade on his head, becoming everyone’s best pal and the life of the party. Of course, by the time he looks and feels like he is finally relating to the other people there, he is completely unavailable to do so.


Addiction = Drugs or Alcohol or Behaviors?

Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

Addiction = Drugs or Alcohol or Behaviors? A Basic Understanding of Addiction

Almost everyone is familiar with and understands to some degree what addiction is in terms of substance abuse (things like alcohol, nicotine, illicit drugs, and prescription medications). Frankly, most of us have by now encountered at least one or two alcoholics or drug addicts in school or at work, in our personal lives, or at least in the media. These individuals are people driven by a “need” to escape life’s challenges by getting high in one form or another. In other words, substance addicts are not using drugs or alcohol simply to party and have a good time (though their addiction probably started out that way). Instead, they abuse substances as a way to “maintain a feeling of control” and to “make it through the day, get through life, etc.” Many of these individuals, despite their substance abuse, are reasonably functional, managing to keep an intact personal and professional life while hiding their addiction. Others demonstrate problems that are clearly evident to even the most casual of observers (DUI, job loss, destroyed relationships, etc.) Regardless of whether an addict’s substance abuse is covert or overt, there is little confusion or debate among either lay people or therapy professionals regarding the nature and cycle of drug and alcohol addiction.


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