Archives for January, 2013


Welcome to the Holodeck: Consumer Electronics Show Previews New Paths to Sexual Pleasure

I have written extensively about the intersection of technology and sexual addiction, examining the topic in blogs here and here, and in the upcoming book (Summer 2013) "Closer Together, Further Apart: The Effects of Digital Technology on Sex, Relationships, and Intimacy." Because of that, I was hoping to take a time out from all the "sexnology" writing, but the recently concluded International Consumer Electronics Show (CES) in Las Vegas has pushed me toward this all-too-familiar topic yet again.

By most accounts, this year's CES was a bit of a snooze-fest. Several major players (Apple and Google among them) stayed away entirely, though plenty of smaller vendors were busy hawking Apple and Google related devices. The general consensus seems to be that this year's CES fell short of past years in terms of completely new technologies to see, enjoy, and make plans to buy. Instead, vendors presented a lot of enhancements and tweaks to existing technology.
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Love: The Healthy Addiction?

Some Famous Quotes about Love to Get Us Started:
"One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love." – Sophocles

"To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia." – H.L. Mencken

"Sometimes love is stronger than a man's convictions." – Isaac Bashevis Singer

"Loves makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place." – Zora Neale Hurston
So, What is Love?

Romantic love, next to whatever happens after we die, has always been one of mankind's greatest mysteries. LOVE is difficult to define, differs from person to person, yet somehow is easy for all to recognize. You sure know when it hits you - not unlike the flu. For eons men and woman have philosophized about what love is, how it occurs, and why it's necessary, rarely coming up with anything more useful than really cool comments like, "Love is friendship set on fire." Such sentiments make good song lyrics and poetry, but are not much help from a psychotherapy perspective. Nevertheless, despite centuries of vain attempts to fully define it, there is no denying that love exists, and that it's as natural and essential to most human beings as breathing, eating, and sleeping.
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Men, Women, and Sexual Objectification

Mars and Venus

Men and women typically experience sex - both fantasy and reality - in different ways. It has long been known that when it comes to sex men tend to be visually oriented, whereas women tend to be more interested in a connection or relationship. Basically, when a man sexually admires a woman, he is usually focused on certain body parts and their potential use for him (as sexual objects). When viewing pornography, for instance, males are typically most aroused by a rapid-fire succession of images depicting concrete sexual acts and/or specific sexual body parts. Females on the other hand tend to be most aroused by sexual imagery that includes or at least infers some type of emotional connection.
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