When is Flirting a Sign of Sexual Addiction?

By Linda Hatch, PhD

young man and wemen at the barFlirting is a normal part of life. Not only is it enjoyable, it is a healthy part of courtship. And yet flirting is problem for a large proportion of the sex addict patients I see, I’m guessing maybe a third or more of them.

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5 Surprising Ways to Make More Time in Your Day

By Linda Hatch, PhD

lovely girl with a mug of coffeeGetting pulled in all different directions, putting out fires, dealing with one problem after another—pretty soon the day is gone.  Many of us can’t find time to work on our own growth and recovery because obligations, decisions, and all kinds of distractions crowd into our awareness and fill up our time before we know it.

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A Troubled Past: When to Remember, When to Forget

By Linda Hatch, PhD

sweeping leavesWe often hear two conflicting messages about the painful events of the past.  Treatment for addiction and psychological problems involves remembering working through hurtful experiences.  At the same time it seems as if growth and change involve letting go of the past; forgiving, forgetting and moving on.

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5 Signs you are Involved with a Narcissist

By Linda Hatch, PhD

narcissismBasically you can’t get close to a narcissist.  A relationship with a narcissist will be a problem, and the more narcissistic they are the more it becomes impossible.

Sex addicts and addicts generally are often described as narcissistic, but many non-addicts are narcissists as well.  Trying to have a relationship with a true narcissist can be an extremely tortuous and confusing experience.

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Sex Addicts Should Get Out of the Dog House

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Fell into profound sleepRebuilding a relationship after the upheaval of sex addiction is a slow process.  It demands a great deal from both the sex addict and the spouse or partner.

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How to Divorce Your Toxic Relatives

By Linda Hatch, PhD

family dysfunctionMany people have relatives who are hazardous to their mental health.   In all family systems there are roles and expectations for each member.  And there are established rules, both spoken and unspoken.

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Mindfulness and Brain Changes in Sex Addiction Relapse Prevention

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Mature woman dreamingThe bad news is there are brain changes in addicts that make it harder for them to resist cravings and avoid relapse.  The good news is that those brain changes can be reversed.

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Nurture Yourself Without Guilt

By Linda Hatch, PhD

self deprivationDo you go through anguish and self doubt about buying something you really want?  Is it gruelingly hard for you to tell someone something they might not like to hear?  We have a lot to learn about self deprivation from sex addicts.  They live in a contradictory world,

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Waiting to Trust: Life in Recovery Limbo

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Couple having an argumentFor the partner of a sex addict, even one who is in recovery for a year or two, mistrust can develop a life of its own. The addict seems to be doing everything right but for some reason you are unable to feel happy or at peace. Sometimes even little things may trigger the old feeling of being flooded with emotion. What follows is based on the common experiences of my clients and my own life experience.

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Are Sex Addicts a Danger to Children? What to Look For

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Cheerful friendsIf you are a family member of a sex addict or of a recovering sex addict, or if you are dating a sex addict, you may have concerns about whether that person poses a danger to children.

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