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Recovery in Partners of Sex Addicts

By Linda Hatch, PhD

sexual betrayalI believe that sexual betrayal of the partners of sex addicts has a two-fold impact.  It is both a trauma and a serious loss.   The trauma that accompanies the discovery of sex addiction shakes the spouse or partner to the core.

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Self Awareness: What it is and What it Isn’t

By Linda Hatch, PhD

photo for self awarenessMany sex addicts enter recovery with little or no ability to identify what it is they are feeling.  I had one client say that he never used to know what his feelings were, that he used to think hunger was a feeling!

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How to Make Revenge Porn Illegal

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Photographer capturing portrait of bikini girlIf you pose for a nude photo or make a sexual video of yourself should your ex-partner be allowed to post it on a “revenge porn” site without your consent?    And if this happens to you, what are your options?

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Why Partners of Sex Addicts Get Sick: A Vicious Circle

By Linda Hatch, PhD

photo for why partners of sex addicts get sickThat the partners of sex addicts seem to suffer both minor and major illness might not be a surprise to those currently dealing with the crisis of discovering sex addiction in a relationship.

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Do Sex Addicts Have Multiple Personality?

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Young man in nightclub approaching camera with arms outstretchedSex addicts often seem to have two distinct personalities.  Often they will report to me that they experience themselves that way.  One personality is thoughtful, loving and responsible while the other is self centered, impulsive and primitive.

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Do Porn Addicts Cheat on their Partners?

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Working coupleNot all porn addicts cheat.  But compulsively watching porn all the time doesn’t guarantee that the addict won’t find time to be unfaithful.

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4 Ways to be a Great Role Model in 2014

By Linda Hatch, PhD

photo for role modelBeing a positive role model is one of the easiest and most powerful ways to help other people.  If you can find ways to demonstrate and live your values you will have a huge impact on those around you whether they are an adult, a child, an addict, a client, a friend or a family member.  And in living your values you will be giving yourself a positive message of strength and confidence as well.

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The Steps to Unpacking Your Emotional Baggage

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Woman Having Counselling SessionMost of us have some so-called baggage, unnecessary fears, mistaken ways of thinking, and self-destructive behavior patterns.  This is true for all people struggling with sex addiction as well as most of the rest of the population.

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What Makes it a Date?

By Linda Hatch, PhD

ClubbersI doubt anyone will get a government grant to study this question but it is one that people often puzzle over.  I believe this question is more than just semantics.  What makes something a “date” rather than just “doing something together”?  And why do we think it’s important?

Date or no date

I don’t believe you can go on a date without realizing it.

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How to Respond to Boundary Violations: Do’s and Don’ts

By Linda Hatch, PhD

photo for boundary violationsMy parents were world class boundary violators so I’ve had some personal experience with this issue.  My mother didn’t know where she stopped and I started.  I used to joke that she was the kind who would say “I’m cold; you need to put on a sweater.”

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Check Out Linda Hatch's books,
Relationships in Recovery & Living with a Sex Addict.


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Recent Comments
  • Torestin: Article described Barry Soreto to a tee – liar and chief narcissist…..
  • Eve: I was married to this exact personality type-addict and all. This is frightenly accurate.
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