Being a good friend can be a serious challenge for all addicts.   Drug addicts and alcoholics may have “drug buddies” or “drinking buddies,” and sex addicts have acting out (sexual) partners.  But addicts are intimacy challenged and avoid closeness, often being isolated except for their work relationships or immediate family.

Sex addicts tend to have a narcissistic defense system, a façade of grandiosity which covers a deeper feeling of unworthiness.  The result is that they don’t easily feel safe with anyone.  They tend to feel that everyone is either superior or inferior to them and so they avoid taking even the initial steps that might result in a deeper friendship.

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A Smart New Year’s Resolution: Learn to be a Better Friend

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  1. Really liked this article and the way it was written, the link to that brighter12 website was very helpful too, i’m liking their program so far.

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