I love it when my sex addict clients go to family gatherings, even though they sometimes dread it!  I tend to view a concentrated exposure to members of your family of origin as an unparalleled growth opportunity.

Here are some of the challenges and some positive ways to respond to the experience.

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Holiday Family Encounters: How to Use Them in Your Recovery

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  1. This is a fantastic parsing of the next six weeks that ALL addicts will have to face and work with. I also recommend that addicts “buddy up” for the most trying situations — have someone they are safe with at the party or someone on call. Thank goodness for cell phones.

    A plan of retreat is also a great tool. When are you leaving? With whom? Be as safe and/or independent as possible in your reunions.

    And when it’s all over, share the experience with someone who will understand the dynamics. Use it a learning experience.

    Thank you for sharing this important discussion.

  2. This sounds exactly like my family and my trepidation for the upcoming holidays but I’m a recovering enabler. I’ll be in a house full of dysfunctional codependants and active users. I’m going to try to remember that I can’t control it and I can’t change it but it’ll be hard and I’m dreading it. Ick. Not sure what I can do to help w this-I would like to one day enjoy the holidays-probably need to vacation to really achieve this! Lol

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