While looking through a classic collection of articles by men called Men Confront Pornography (1990, Kimmel, M. S. Ed.) which I thought might help my sex addict clients, I came across some interesting theories as to why porn is so compelling for so many men.
These are not excuses, they are attempts to explain and understand the “pain killing nature” of porn.
What is a man medicating when he chooses two dimensional images of women who are always exactly the way he wants them to be?
I will look at two of these theories and then add my own thoughts.
Men feel violated by women and seek revenge