Should sex addicts ever use pornography?

Sex addicts who have a variety of other sexually addictive behaviors,  often find excuses for thinking that their internet porn use is not really a problem and may even be a good thing.  Are they wrong?  Let’s look at some common lines of reasoning that addicts present and my validity score for each one.

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Top 4 Arguments for Porn Use: Are They Valid?

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  1. Your blog posts make my blood pressure rise and make me feel uncomfortable. My initial reaction is “she doesn’t know what she’s talking about…prude, etc etc.” Though, I keep reading them, which suggests to me that I am taking in what you’re saying. I don’t think I’m ready to tackle this addiction (I’m already a currently sober alcoholic.) When I am I know deep down I’ll be thankful I read the words I didn’t want to read. Thank you for informative posts that I 95% disagree with. I’ll get there when I’m ready to change.

  2. Perhaps I didn’t use the website properly, or perhaps I just didn’t find any links, but as far as I can tell you give us your “professional opinion” but cite no studies, give no sources, and provide no particular case examples.

    • Well it’s true this post is more of an opinion piece but i doubt there is a lot of scholarly research on the most popular excuses people use for viewing porn. If you know of any I’d be interested. Something I like about blogging is that I have the option of writing from my experience. I am very interested in readers’ experiences and opinions. Let me know if you have your own ideas on this issue.

  3. For those who are truly sexually addicted, I would imagine it makes sense to build as good a “fence” around healthy sexuality as possible, even if there might be some positives associated with what it is you’re fencing out.

    That said, the mind is the strongest sexual organ of all. This is a bit of a conundrum, I think, with both food and sex “addictions.” You can’t not eat, and you can’t stop yourself from thinking sexual thoughts.

    It is worth noting that in the olden days of the 1970s, fantasies, Harold Robbins and Phillip Roth novels, and underwear ads were all the stimulation that — for example! — teen boys needed to do their teen boy thing.

    • TPG- I remember those novels (which dates us both). Good comment– in sex addiction “the call is coming from inside the house.”

  4. Good, thought-provoking post. It’s so easy to fool ourselves into believing that being “sex-positive” means accepting behaviors in ourselves that have strong potential for strangling our sexual freedom. Intense stimulation like today’s porn can deaden our sensitivity to everyday pleasures, thus jacking up the degree of stimulation we need to climax and narrowing our options for pleasure. Sneaky biology. But then our brains didn’t evolve to handle today’s online enticements.

    • Yes, unfortunately today what is healthy is sometimes confused with whatever has the potential to provide the absolute maximum possible sexual intensity.

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