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The 10 Biggest Myths about Sex Addiction Treatment

Wednesday, October 29th, 2014

Unhappy couple on psychotherapy sessionThese 10 things are not so much myths as they are distortions born of fear and misinformation. When people do not understand sex addiction treatment they may see it as suspect or threatening in some way. This is most often based on very little direct knowledge or a misunderstanding of what they have heard.

The prejudice against sex addiction treatment is much like any other prejudice. It is constantly reinforced by other people who have the same prejudice and it breeds all kinds of misinformation about the feared group. These false beliefs serve to create further distance from that group of people and solidify the prejudice.

It is a scientific fact that when we hold an extreme view, one that is all the way at one end of the attitude scale, we are very bad at making discriminations about the attitudes of people who are at the other end of the scale. We lump the “others” together in an unexamined way. And the more polarized our attitude, the more forcefully we tend to believe it.


Sex Addiction Recovery Takes a Long Time– or Not

Wednesday, September 17th, 2014

struggling with recoveryPeople seeking help for sex addiction are anxious to see the light at the end of the tunnel. They are often stunned when I tell them that, even for those who are diligent and motivated, the whole process takes about 3 to 5 years.

Some practitioners might say that, like alcoholism, sex addiction is a chronic condition requiring continuous treatment for life to prevent relapse. I don’t think this is always the case. As I have argued elsewhere  I believe that sex addiction recovery is possible and lasting. At some point people can say “I am a recovered sex addict”.

And yet the actual process of getting to that point of solid and reliable recovery seems to take a determined effort over a period of years. There is one possible form of sex addiction which may be different, and I will discuss that further on.

The Six Stages of Sex Addiction Recovery


Voyeurism: What it is and What it isn’t

Wednesday, August 13th, 2014

voyeurMost sex addicts, no matter what their behaviors consist in (prostitutes, anonymous sex, serial seductions, pornography etc.) will tend to sexualize other people they look at. You might say that sex addicts view the world through sex colored glasses. But this does not mean that they are voyeurs.

Voyeurism is a distinct category of behavior that characterizes certain sex addicts.  And although most people who identify as sex addicts have more than one type of behavior, research by Patrick Carnes and others found that there were 10 distinguishable types or clusters of addictive behavior of which voyeurism was one.


When is Flirting a Sign of Sexual Addiction?

Monday, May 26th, 2014

young man and wemen at the barFlirting is a normal part of life. Not only is it enjoyable, it is a healthy part of courtship. And yet flirting is problem for a large proportion of the sex addict patients I see, I’m guessing maybe a third or more of them.


Are Sex Addicts a Danger to Children? What to Look For

Monday, March 17th, 2014

Cheerful friendsIf you are a family member of a sex addict or of a recovering sex addict, or if you are dating a sex addict, you may have concerns about whether that person poses a danger to children.


Dissociation: A Crucial Problem for Sex Addiction Treatment

Thursday, March 6th, 2014

scream i do not hear youWe have always known that recovery from sex addiction involved regaining integrity. By this we usually mean that practicing sex addicts typically have a secret life. They are the all-around good guy as they move about the world and they become their darker, secret self when they are acting out sexually.

 


What is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT)? Frequently Asked Questions

Monday, March 3rd, 2014

Mature students studying in libraryWhat is involved in becoming a CSAT therapist or counselor?

First, an important point to remember is that only those therapists who are already licensed or otherwise credentialed in their particular counseling field (e.g. psychologists, clinical social workers, marriage counselors, pastoral counselors) are eligible to enroll in the CSAT training.


How to Make Revenge Porn Illegal

Monday, January 27th, 2014

Photographer capturing portrait of bikini girlIf you pose for a nude photo or make a sexual video of yourself should your ex-partner be allowed to post it on a “revenge porn” site without your consent?    And if this happens to you, what are your options?


Dating Younger Women

Monday, November 4th, 2013

photo for younger womenThe attraction to younger women, I mean much younger women, is almost a cliché in our society.  I am reminded of a cartoon I saw in which two young cute women are at a party and are looking across the room at an elderly man.  One woman is saying to the other “Him? He’s old enough to be my husband!”

Leaving aside the idea of a biological imperative for men to seek good breeders, the discussions of the question touch on a lot of social and psychological issues including that of sex addiction.


Feminist Porn: A Force for Good?

Monday, October 28th, 2013

photo for feminist pornFeminist porn has a split personality.  Or maybe even a multiple personality.   It is a potpourri of causes, similar to the “movement” of the 1960’s which lumped together women’s rights, the anti-war movement, sexual liberation, racial equality, alternative lifestyles and more.





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