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When is Flirting a Sign of Sexual Addiction?

Monday, May 26th, 2014

young man and wemen at the barFlirting is a normal part of life. Not only is it enjoyable, it is a healthy part of courtship. And yet flirting is problem for a large proportion of the sex addict patients I see, I’m guessing maybe a third or more of them.


Are Sex Addicts a Danger to Children? What to Look For

Monday, March 17th, 2014

Cheerful friendsIf you are a family member of a sex addict or of a recovering sex addict, or if you are dating a sex addict, you may have concerns about whether that person poses a danger to children.


Dissociation: A Crucial Problem for Sex Addiction Treatment

Thursday, March 6th, 2014

scream i do not hear youWe have always known that recovery from sex addiction involved regaining integrity. By this we usually mean that practicing sex addicts typically have a secret life. They are the all-around good guy as they move about the world and they become their darker, secret self when they are acting out sexually.

 


What is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT)? Frequently Asked Questions

Monday, March 3rd, 2014

Mature students studying in libraryWhat is involved in becoming a CSAT therapist or counselor?

First, an important point to remember is that only those therapists who are already licensed or otherwise credentialed in their particular counseling field (e.g. psychologists, clinical social workers, marriage counselors, pastoral counselors) are eligible to enroll in the CSAT training.


How to Make Revenge Porn Illegal

Monday, January 27th, 2014

Photographer capturing portrait of bikini girlIf you pose for a nude photo or make a sexual video of yourself should your ex-partner be allowed to post it on a “revenge porn” site without your consent?    And if this happens to you, what are your options?


Dating Younger Women

Monday, November 4th, 2013

photo for younger womenThe attraction to younger women, I mean much younger women, is almost a cliché in our society.  I am reminded of a cartoon I saw in which two young cute women are at a party and are looking across the room at an elderly man.  One woman is saying to the other “Him? He’s old enough to be my husband!”

Leaving aside the idea of a biological imperative for men to seek good breeders, the discussions of the question touch on a lot of social and psychological issues including that of sex addiction.


Feminist Porn: A Force for Good?

Monday, October 28th, 2013

photo for feminist pornFeminist porn has a split personality.  Or maybe even a multiple personality.   It is a potpourri of causes, similar to the “movement” of the 1960’s which lumped together women’s rights, the anti-war movement, sexual liberation, racial equality, alternative lifestyles and more.


Self-Destructive Behavior in Addiction Prone People

Monday, October 7th, 2013

Self destructive behavior is often hard to fathom.  A person who habitually cuts him/herself, a person who has risky sex with a stranger in a park at night, a person who eats to the point of being sick; such behaviors make no sense to the average person.

Such behavior can be seen psychologically as an escape, a coping strategy, a survival skill, or a way to restore emotional equilibrium.


Sexually Addictive Behavior “Severity Levels”: Limitations of the System

Monday, September 16th, 2013

photo for levels of severityThe standard set of categories currently in use to describe sexually addictive behavior according to three levels of severity is not wrong, but it has limitations. And I would argue that it can be misleading to sex addicts in treatment in a number of ways.

Here is the level system as described by Patrick Carnes in Out of the Shadows:


Online Relationships: Real or Fantasy?

Monday, September 9th, 2013

girl with laptopWhen I “e-meet” someone, that is connect online, I often have strong and immediate feelings that I like them or that I don’t, even though I have never seen them or talked to them in person.  It is not a stretch to see that this feeling of connection can be experienced by many people as an intimate and even sexual attraction.  (I have dealt with the topic of connecting sexually through cybersex vs. real sex in another post.)





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