For many sex addicts and partners the initial disclosure and crisis is followed if not by a rupture then by an uneasy peace. And that peace is often characterized by alienation and doubt and punctuated with flare ups and mistrust.
Much of the work for recovering sex addicts and for people generally involves understanding the roles we played in our family and the damage that may have been done to our sense of self. This is not always easy.
First, an important point to remember is that only those therapists who are already licensed or otherwise credentialed in their particular counseling field (e.g. psychologists, clinical social workers, marriage counselors, pastoral counselors) are eligible to enroll in the CSAT training.
The focus of traditional sex addiction-compulsivity treatment models tends to be on diagnosing and stopping specific sexual behaviors, or sexual sobriety (Carnes, P., 2001). From a treatment perspective, it is correct to implement behavioral containment and stop problematic behaviors.
I believe that sexual betrayal of the partners of sex addicts has a two-fold impact. It is both a trauma and a serious loss. The trauma that accompanies the discovery of sex addiction shakes the spouse or partner to the core.
If you pose for a nude photo or make a sexual video of yourself should your ex-partner be allowed to post it on a “revenge porn” site without your consent? And if this happens to you, what are your options?
Sex addicts often seem to have two distinct personalities. Often they will report to me that they experience themselves that way. One personality is thoughtful, loving and responsible while the other is self centered, impulsive and primitive.