First, an important point to remember is that only those therapists who are already licensed or otherwise credentialed in their particular counseling field (e.g. psychologists, clinical social workers, marriage counselors, pastoral counselors) are eligible to enroll in the CSAT training.
I believe that sexual betrayal of the partners of sex addicts has a two-fold impact. It is both a trauma and a serious loss. The trauma that accompanies the discovery of sex addiction shakes the spouse or partner to the core.
Many sex addicts enter recovery with little or no ability to identify what it is they are feeling. I had one client say that he never used to know what his feelings were, that he used to think hunger was a feeling!
Sex addicts often seem to have two distinct personalities. Often they will report to me that they experience themselves that way. One personality is thoughtful, loving and responsible while the other is self centered, impulsive and primitive.
Being a positive role model is one of the easiest and most powerful ways to help other people. If you can find ways to demonstrate and live your values you will have a huge impact on those around you whether they are an adult, a child, an addict, a client, a friend or a family member. And in living your values you will be giving yourself a positive message of strength and confidence as well.
Most of us have some so-called baggage, unnecessary fears, mistaken ways of thinking, and self-destructive behavior patterns. This is true for all people struggling with sex addiction as well as most of the rest of the population.
I doubt anyone will get a government grant to study this question but it is one that people often puzzle over. I believe this question is more than just semantics. What makes something a “date” rather than just “doing something together”? And why do we think it’s important?
Date or no date
I don’t believe you can go on a date without realizing it.
Most sex addicts who are trying to quit using internet pornography find it harder than they ever thought. Some simply can’t face quitting. A porn addict who has lost his job for using porn at work may feel “Quit porn? You’ve gotta be kidding.” (See this excellent video from abc news.)