In sex addiction treatment and in therapy in general, we talk a lot about people needing to have good “boundaries.” (Take the quiz on relationship boundaries.)
Boundaries are limits on what you will or will not do.
Boundaries are basic internal principles guiding your behavior through which you can keep yourself safe, calm, rational and respectful of those around you.
Addicts use their addiction to self-medicate, escape or rebel. When emotions such as anger, fear, loneliness and shame pile up in difficult situations addicts reach for their “drug.”
If you are calm, effective and appropriate in getting your needs met then you diminish the feelings that can trigger your addictive behavior.
In sex addiction treatment the term “boundaries” is often used in a narrow sense to mean rules about what behaviors are acceptable and what behaviors are part of your addiction. These boundaries identify behaviors that signal relapse.
The broader meaning of boundaries in sex addiction treatment and therapy in general includes things like: