Let’s assume you are a very intuitive person. Let’s say you are a woman who has just found out her boyfriend is frequently watching internet porn, having online sexual encounters, or engaging in other sexual activities in a secretive or compulsive way.
You have already got a pretty good idea that there’s something not OK about it. Maybe he wants you to act out a particular fantasy scenario or engage in a 3-way or some other act that may not be in your comfort zone. You say “no” and he keeps pushing you; maybe he even gets irritated.
The following are common sense ideas based on my own experience in working with sex addicts and their partners.