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5 Signs you are Involved with a Narcissist

By Linda Hatch, PhD

narcissismBasically you can’t get close to a narcissist.  A relationship with a narcissist will be a problem, and the more narcissistic they are the more it becomes impossible.

Sex addicts and addicts generally are often described as narcissistic, but many non-addicts are narcissists as well.  Trying to have a relationship with a true narcissist can be an extremely tortuous and confusing experience.

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Sex Addicts Should Get Out of the Dog House

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Fell into profound sleepRebuilding a relationship after the upheaval of sex addiction is a slow process.  It demands a great deal from both the sex addict and the spouse or partner.

For many sex addicts and partners the initial disclosure and crisis is followed if not by a rupture then by an uneasy peace.  And that peace is often characterized by alienation and doubt and punctuated with flare ups and mistrust.

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How to Divorce Your Toxic Relatives

By Linda Hatch, PhD

family dysfunctionMany people have relatives who are hazardous to their mental health.   In all family systems there are roles and expectations for each member.  And there are established rules, both spoken and unspoken.

Much of the work for recovering sex addicts and for people generally involves understanding the roles we played in our family and the damage that may have been done to our sense of self.  This is not always easy.

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Mindfulness and Brain Changes in Sex Addiction Relapse Prevention

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Mature woman dreamingThe bad news is there are brain changes in addicts that make it harder for them to resist cravings and avoid relapse.  The good news is that those brain changes can be reversed.

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Nurture Yourself Without Guilt

By Linda Hatch, PhD

self deprivationDo you go through anguish and self doubt about buying something you really want?  Is it gruelingly hard for you to tell someone something they might not like to hear?  We have a lot to learn about self deprivation from sex addicts.  They live in a contradictory world,

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Are Sex Addicts a Danger to Children? What to Look For

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Cheerful friendsIf you are a family member of a sex addict or of a recovering sex addict, or if you are dating a sex addict, you may have concerns about whether that person poses a danger to children.

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The Bogus Sex Addiction “Controversy” and the Purveyors of Ignorance

By Linda Hatch, PhD

purveyors of ignoranceI still sometimes read a newspaper.  Today’s LA Times had the absolutely best article I have seen in years.  It is called “Sowing Doubt About Science” by Michael Hiltzik.

Agnotology, the study of the production of ignorance

The Hiltzik article reports on the work of Robert Proctor, a history of science professor at Stanford specializing in what is called “Agnotology”, the study of the cultural production of ignorance.  This is the investigation of the deliberate sowing of public misinformation and doubt in a scientific area.  I of course saw an immediate application to what I have been calling the “sex addiction deniers”.

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What is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT)? Frequently Asked Questions

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Mature students studying in libraryWhat is involved in becoming a CSAT therapist or counselor?

First, an important point to remember is that only those therapists who are already licensed or otherwise credentialed in their particular counseling field (e.g. psychologists, clinical social workers, marriage counselors, pastoral counselors) are eligible to enroll in the CSAT training.

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Sex Addiction-Induced Perpetration (SAIP) Goes Undiagnosed and Untreated (Guest Blog)

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Domestic violenceThe following guest blog was contributed by Dr. Omar Minwalla of The Institute for Sexual Health

The focus of traditional sex addiction-compulsivity treatment models tends to be on diagnosing and stopping specific sexual behaviors, or sexual sobriety (Carnes, P., 2001).  From a treatment perspective, it is correct to implement behavioral containment and stop problematic behaviors.

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The Cat Will See You Now

By Linda Hatch, PhD

I’m away this week and I will post again on 2/24, so for now my cat is holding down the fort.  Truth in advertizing: my cat is a lousy therapist.

catBill Cosby once said  “all cats do is shed on the rug and make you sneeze” but I think they do a lot more.   My cat is entertaining, ornamental, and a good hunter.  And I guess that’s what cats are for.   Then too, I have read that petting a cat can lower your blood pressure.

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