9 Good Reasons to Stay with a Sex Addict

By Linda Hatch, PhD

happy coupleI do not take sides on the issue of whether it is better to stay in a marriage or committed relationship with a sex addict or whether it is better to get away and start over.  I think there are many valid arguments on both sides depending on the situation.

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The Inner World of a Sex Addict

By Linda Hatch, PhD

looking insideA reader asked how it feels for a sex addict to lead a double life. This is an interesting question and to some extent the answer is “It depends on the addict.”

New studies in progress using the MMPI (Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory), The Millon Clinical Inventory and the Sexual Dependency Inventory suggest that different general types of sexually addictive behavior tend to clump together with different personality types or traits. These types vary from less to more severe.

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4 Tips to Avoid Picking an Addict

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Man shaking woman handI was starting a romantic relationship a while back with a guy I liked a lot. I was talking to a friend about it and the friend said “how does he get along with your dog?” This was a striking question at the time because the guy, as nice as he seemed, didn’t relate to the dog at all! As it turned out I should have trusted my friend– and the dog.

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Why is Institutional Betrayal so Traumatic?

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Overworked - businesswoman with strong migraineSince the posting on psychcentral a year ago of the article called “Organizational Infidelity Amplifies Sexual Trauma“there has been a great deal of attention paid to the poor handling of sexual trauma by institutions such as universities, the military and the church.

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When is Flirting a Sign of Sexual Addiction?

By Linda Hatch, PhD

young man and wemen at the barFlirting is a normal part of life. Not only is it enjoyable, it is a healthy part of courtship. And yet flirting is problem for a large proportion of the sex addict patients I see, I’m guessing maybe a third or more of them.

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5 Surprising Ways to Make More Time in Your Day

By Linda Hatch, PhD

lovely girl with a mug of coffeeGetting pulled in all different directions, putting out fires, dealing with one problem after another—pretty soon the day is gone.  Many of us can’t find time to work on our own growth and recovery because obligations, decisions, and all kinds of distractions crowd into our awareness and fill up our time before we know it.

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A Troubled Past: When to Remember, When to Forget

By Linda Hatch, PhD

sweeping leavesWe often hear two conflicting messages about the painful events of the past.  Treatment for addiction and psychological problems involves remembering working through hurtful experiences.  At the same time it seems as if growth and change involve letting go of the past; forgiving, forgetting and moving on.

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5 Signs you are Involved with a Narcissist

By Linda Hatch, PhD

narcissismBasically you can’t get close to a narcissist.  A relationship with a narcissist will be a problem, and the more narcissistic they are the more it becomes impossible.

Sex addicts and addicts generally are often described as narcissistic, but many non-addicts are narcissists as well.  Trying to have a relationship with a true narcissist can be an extremely tortuous and confusing experience.

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Sex Addicts Should Get Out of the Dog House

By Linda Hatch, PhD

Fell into profound sleepRebuilding a relationship after the upheaval of sex addiction is a slow process.  It demands a great deal from both the sex addict and the spouse or partner.

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How to Divorce Your Toxic Relatives

By Linda Hatch, PhD

family dysfunctionMany people have relatives who are hazardous to their mental health.   In all family systems there are roles and expectations for each member.  And there are established rules, both spoken and unspoken.

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Relationships in Recovery & Living with a Sex Addict.


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