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Conscious Lifestyle

10 Affirmations and Inspirational Quotes for New Beginnings Each Day and Year!



Happy New Year to you and yours!

(Or, if you prefer, Happy First Day of the Rest of Your Life)!

In either case, why not make it an inspiring one?

Start this New Year, and each day in it, with affirming thoughts and words that activate amazing powers you have, from within, to refresh and literally restore balance in the neurochemistry of your brain and body, mind and heart!

It's no longer theory, thanks to findings in neuroscience, we know the human brain and body are...
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Addictive Relating

Stonewalling, What Makes It Similar Yet Distinct From Gaslighting? 1 of 2

Stonewalling shares some common ground with gaslighting.

Both are effective in blocking healthy communication, in particular, the sense of emotional safety and connection necessary that each person in the communication needs to deepen their mutual understanding of one another, in order to strengthen their relationship.

It's in their intent that they distinctly differ. Stonewalling is a learned defensive or protective strategy. In general, the person who stonewalls is using a learned albeit ineffective way of expressing intense emotions to a loved one, which...
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Emotional Mastery

A New Year’s Gift: Four Realities In “Re-Storying” Your Life to Realize Your Goals and Dreams



The cusp a New Year is a great time to reflect, and yes to dream big, connecting to your heart’s deepest yearnings -- what you want to see, create and choose to bring ever closer into your life in the coming year.

Setting goals is great exercise, proven to make a difference, especially if you use research-based approaches, such as setting “smart" goals. There’s another exercise to consider, however: Re-storying "the story" of your life....
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Addictive Relating

What Is and Isn’t Narcissism: 3 Key Identifiers, 2 of 5

Many articles of late describe a narcissist as someone "in love" with themselves, absorbed with activities that promote their success, dreams and goals, skilled at charming others, attention seeking, and so on. Though a narcissist may exhibit these traits, and be charming, charismatic, successful and goal-oriented ... let's get real.

These characteristics, in and of themselves, are also essential human traits and, in varying degrees, describe behaviors of healthy persons who are driven to succeed in their careers at work or home,...
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Addictive Relating

3 Basics of Working (Mindfully) with a Narcissist in Therapy: A Balancing Act, 1 of 5

In response to a recent post, How to Identify a Narcissist in Therapy, several readers requested a follow up post that outlines a few essentials of working with a client who presents with narcissistic "tendencies" or npd (narcissistic personality disorder) in couples or family therapy, so as to disarm or minimize the potentially destabilizing effects of these problematic behaviors both in the sessions themselves -- and on therapeutic processes and outcomes in general. Other readers also wanted to know...
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Addictive Relating

Sex and Love Addiction: Five Ways the Dominance Factor Erodes or Blocks Couple Intimacy

Though dominance as a value may make sense on the battlefield, in love relationships, tactics of war are the problem. Dominance and tactics to enforce hierarchical relations are guaranteed to produce needless suffering in the form of win-lose competitions, pursue-withdraw dynamics, illusions of power, and toxic relating patterns.

Whereas dominance is a socially approved behavior for males (considered "norm" in many cases), the opposite is true for women. Regardless who starts the...
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Addictive Relating

3 Strategies for Controlling (or Being Controlled By) Your Body’s Reactive Patterns

Reactivity and defensiveness is deceptively destructive. It throws off the energy (emotions and heart) of the body -- and when your heart is off balance, so are you, logically speaking. You may think you're being "logical," however, in survival mode, fear rules the body, and the higher-thinking capacity of your brain switches to offline mode, a shift that literally turns on the "protective" (defenses) mode, and turns off "real" learning mode, thus, no longer open to influence...
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Conscious Lifestyle

12 Steps to Increase Your Happiness (Optimize Your Thinking-Feeling Habits!), 1 of 2

Are you waiting for happiness to arrive as a result of reaching a certain outcome?

If so, you may be missing a key point. A state of mind set on happiness is a vital fuel that creates more happiness -- making the achievement of goals easier, more effortless, and and the best guarantees you'll enjoy your success once realized.

Happiness is the way so to speak, not a goal.

To develop an optimal life-changing thinking-feeling mindset, let happiness to lead the way. This doesn't men to ignore a...
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Conscious Lifestyle

Flow & the Science of Happiness, 2 of 2


Speaking of happiness, developing the ability to shift to positive states of mind and body is also how champions or virtuosos intuitively achieve excellence in their field, a state of happiness so profound words do not suffice.

In Part 1, we considered what timeless wisdom and the science of happiness say about the power of our thoughts, more specifically, the cause-effect relationship between our thoughts and the feelings they spark, and how these shapes our lives and behaviors, words...
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Conscious Lifestyle

Timeless Wisdom & the Science of Happiness: To Change Your Life, Change Your Mind (Not Others…)

"The mind is everything; what you think, you become." ~ BUDDHA
Thoughts are not simply airy pieces of information that enter our minds and then disappear. The words and ideas we think, and the accompanying feelings they spark, shape our lives and behaviors, driving us toward success and happiness ... or failure and distress.

Thoughts are energy. They produce emotions and physiological feelings, and these are powerful forces...
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