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Conscious Lifestyle

7 Paths to Mind-Body Emotional M.A.S.T.E.R.Y.

Emotion mastery is a built-in capacity, often ignored yet always available.

It is a learned ability to thoughtfully respond in ways that disallow your body's survival-system from controlling you and your life with ineffective automatic reactions, defensive strategies, and the like.

Emotion mastery involves growing an awareness and connection to your thoughts, emotions and body sensations, and step by step, cultivating a practice, or lifestyle of making conscious, informed decisions that keep you on course to reaching your goals, and in the process to build the resiliency and confidence...
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7 Reasons Forgiveness Is Your Nature

Forgiveness, most agree, is the right thing to do. It's also an inner ability to access certain resources and cultivate the strength and courage needed to choose to take the higher road.  And the higher road, well, that's where you find wisdom, health, happiness, peace of mind, among other priceless gifts.

Arguably, forgiveness is a practice that is key to reaching your human potential, essentially, who you are.

There are at least 7 reasons why forgiveness can be described as integral to human nature:
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A Holiday Gift to Self, 3 Goals to Emotion Regulation Mastery (Feel Optimally!)


Emotion mastery is a learned ability to navigate challenging emotions and moments, and to feel optimally, at least enough to make choices you'll be happy with later.

It's a vital skill, also known as emotional intelligence.

Emotions are powerful energies, and upsetting emotions in particular, can either be our greatest teachers, when we understand them as action signals to help us grow — or our worst enemies, when we fight or seek to avoid or numb them.

"Love cures people, both...
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7 Steps to Declare Freedom From Energy-Zapping Thoughts (EZTs)

Thoughts are powerful shapers of our lives, period. They shape our relationships too, even our character. If our thoughts are limiting, however, they are also energy zapping. Do you have the reins of your thoughts?

It's no longer theory, it's science.

Our habitual "self talk" seems to form a meaning-laden story that continually "tells us" who we are, how we should relate to our self, others, and life.

This running commentary, based on findings in the fields of cognitive and...
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Thanksgiving, Why Your Health and Happiness Depend On it

It’s that time of year again. The day of giving thanks is here, and with it, a reminder to reflect on the blessings in our lives.

How refreshing this holiday can be, pondering the beautiful truth it symbolizes!

Thanksgiving draws many like a magnet.

Let's “give thanks more often," you hear some say, while others chime in with, “why wait a year?"

Good question, why do most tend to wait for this time of year to...
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Beauty Lives .. It’s Our Nature to Choose Thoughts of Love and Healing

Today the hearts of many in our country, and around the world, are heavy in response to the election results.

There are feelings of grief and loss, anger and betrayal, among others, are only natural. These feelings after all reflect the extent and depth to which many on the left care about continued progress, in terms of granting every citizen -- and not just a select few -- the right and freedom to enjoy a living wage, clean air, water and food, and most of all to...
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7 Steps to Emotionally Heal After Leaving (or Living With) a Narcissist

Once you accept that you’re entangled in a love relationship with a narcissist, you have a key decision to make, either to: remain in the relationship for now, or leave. Or perhaps you've already left, yet keep getting entangled in the narcissist's hoovering tactics.

In either case, give yourself time to cultivate a new understanding of how different the narcissist's worldview is from yours, to identify and avoid the mind game traps they set, and in general, to practice new...
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Codependency, as an Out of Balance, Addictive Relating Pattern, 2 of 2

The overall tendencies for women and men in couple relationships toward some degree of codependency and narcissism respectively, may best be understood looking through the lens of socially approved gender roles. As mentioned in Part 1, narcissism is both a destabilizing mindset, and an addictive relating pattern. In the meantime, a codependent's overzealous attempts to please and appease the narcissist are also destabilizing and addictive.

Perhaps the key difference overall lies in what they each hope to accomplish...
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The Mindset of Narcissism, an Off-Balance Addictive Relating Pattern, 1 of 2



Narcissism and codependency are highly addictive relating patterns that keep both partners off balance. That's because they are driven by toxic thinking patterns, or mindsets, which spawn survival-love fears, illusions of power, limiting views of love, and unrealistic expectations for what it means to be human, male or female.

To the extent one partner is off-balance, lost in their own fear-based mindsets and illusions, the other is thrown off, and both get locked into an inevitable dance that keeps them...
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Conscious Lifestyle

7 Questions to Deepen Your Conversations and Relationship, 2 of 2


Continuing from Part 1, here are four more key questions that invite couples to deepen their relationship and conversations. The questions were adapted from an article by inspirational poet, David Whyte, titled 10 Questions That Have No Right to Go Away.

The four questions are as follows:
4. Do I know how to be present in the moment, yet also remain connected to what I've learned from past experiences ... as...
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