Neuroscience Articles

Body Wisdom: Taking the Reins of Your Health and Happiness, 2 of 2

Friday, June 20th, 2014

Summer Lovin' Caro Wallis via Compfight

You and your body are one vast interconnected communication system that operates nonstop.

Both you (thoughts and beliefs) and your body (physio-emotion responses) are sending signals to each other around the clock.

You’re at a slight disadvantage, however, as discussed in Part 1. Unlike you, your body’s mind or subconscious, comes pre-wired with the knowledge of how to interpret your thoughts (akin to your computer’s operating system).

In contrast, unless your caregivers in early childhood were tuned into their inner world enough so that they could be tuned into you, you’ll need to “work” at understanding how to interpret your body’s signals (emotion signals), as well as discovering the rules your body follows to to interpret your signals (thoughts)


Body Wisdom: Understanding the Language of Your Body, 1 of 2

Monday, June 16th, 2014

InnocenceCreative Commons License Hartwig HKD via Compfight

Like or love it, you and your body are a highly sophisticated communication network that operates 24/7 around the clock every day of your life.

Neuroscience and other studies of the brain and human relationships have taught us a lot about the brain in the last two decades. We know that to understand and organize our thinking experience of the world, we must necessarily learn language—and all of its syntax and grammatical complexities. In much the same way, we must learn to understand and organize our experience of our body’s own language — emotion and sensory cues — with its unique grammar and syntax rules.


Does Your Brain Trick You Out of Happiness In Your Love Relationship?

Saturday, June 7th, 2014

Valentine's Day

Sergiu Bacioiu via Compfight

When you and your partner discuss a hot topic, do you handle it in a way that enriches your relationship — and ultimately your happiness — or does your experience put more emotional distance between you and polarize your positions? Many couples fall in the latter category.

Think about it. It’s tempting, isn’t it, to use our capacity for logic to build a case against the other? The feel-good neurochemicals in our brain pull us in this direction, particularly, if we’ve experienced this reaction in early experiences with parents (and who hasn’t?).


Mirror Neurons: How Our Ability to Connect With Others Makes Us Caring, Moral By Nature

Sunday, June 1st, 2014

MIRRORS Neil Krug via Compfight

As it turns out, social sciences and religions alike have been seriously wrong when it comes to labeling humans as inherently “bad,” “selfish” or “aggressive,” and so on, by nature or from birth. Similarly, scientific thought has mislead us at times into thinking that our instincts for survival have been the primary motivating force of nature, to include human nature.

(It begs the question: Is it coincidence that we’ve been simultaneously taught to think of love as fluffy, secondary or an optional add on to our nature?)

Conceivably, love is a primary evolutionary force. For humans, it is the primary reason to live, and the quest for meaning in life shapes most all of our behaviors, and not merely to survive.

More than likely, our physical instincts to survive are there to serve our higher ones. A handful of psychological theorists, such as Alfred Adler and Abraham Maslow, had it right. They understood certain essential instincts revealed our social nature as human beings, such as our yearnings for belonging, acceptance, making contributions, etc., substantiated by recent findings in neuroscience.

The work of Dr. Marco Iacoboni, published in his most recent book, Mirroring People:  The New Science of How we Connect with Others invites us to look at human nature with new reverence and awe.


Affirmations to Calm Fear and Fulfill Yearnings for Love

Monday, May 26th, 2014

Stay on your path Tc Morgan via Compfight

The practice of affirmations can be a powerful means to heal, change and grow in positive directions. Correctly applied, reaching for customized affirmations is also one of the easiest, fastest, most effective ways to supercharge your life — in a given moment or situation — to activate the health-boosting hormones and processes that optimal emotional states produce in the brain and body.

When you think of it, in its simplest form, an affirmation is really anything you say or think to yourself silently or aloud. In effect, you likely practice “affirmations” around the clock – subconsciously, outside your awareness.

More specifically, however, the word “affirmations” speaks to the conscious use of words that affirm, lift up, inspire, refresh, in other words, a conscious practice of making positive statements to your self … for the purpose of optimizing performance, energizing the body’s healing processes or shifting away from toxic thought patterns that intensify fears, depression, anger, etc., to unhealthy levels.

Affirmations are a key aspect of letting go of and, or replacing old habits of negative self-talk, which most persons are conditioned to repeat, to some degree 24/7, whether they are aware of doing so or not. Because thoughts are powerful activators of automatic neural activity, which produces actual structural inside your body, when you make this a conscious process, you are literally exercising your very own built-in capacity (unique to human beings!), ultimately, to choose the beliefs that will direct the firing and wiring of cells in your brain and body.

The joining or “wiring” of brain cells, is often referred to as, “cells that fire together, wire together”; the words are used to describe what happens when we learn something new or reinforce or modify a current skill. This wiring produces different types of structural changes to the brain, literally, when groups of cells that get activated together, develop new associations, or get modified or reinforced (thicker connections) to the extent they are repeated.

This grouping of common brain cells is what learned behavior is all about; this ability of our brain allows us to walk, talk, run, write, sing, in fact any learned activity we do, and do so seemingly without thinking (in truth, it …


A Conscious Re-Writing of Your Life Story: Three Optimal Practices, 2 of 2

Wednesday, April 30th, 2014

The authentic wise-self and the wounded ego-self are often at odds with each other.

Some competition between them is natural, in vying over which lense, love or fear, will be the primary voice of your experience of life. It’s an ongoing aspect of personal growth and development. As discussed in Part 1, each tells your life story from very different perspectives. 
.
Roughly speaking, these parts correspond with the two divisions of the body’s autonomic nervous system: the parasympathetic nervous system (learning or balanced mode) versus the sympathetic nervous system (survival or automatic defense mode). The question is which division will take charge of your mind and body in situations that trigger you?
.
Who makes this “decision”? Ultimately, the simple answer of course is y-o-u. However, most decisions we make are automatic and therefore activated subconsciously without your awareness? The outcomes are dramatically different, however, depending on whether your wise-self or wounded-ego self is in charge.
.
These two parts relate to life and key questions differently in that they are each driven by different emotional states of the mind and body.
.
That’s because the former involves your brain in higher-thinking processes (frontal cortex), tasking you to consciously re-think a situation in new ways (okay, your partner may be upset because you’re late, but does this mean your survival is really at stake?!). In contrast, the latter automatically accesses mostly pre-decided-thinking-strategies. Naturally, the former requires more effort, conscious awareness in the present moment, and thus is not as comfortable.
.
Like it or not, conscious thinking is the road less taken because the latter “feels more comfortable,” taking automatic pre-programmed paths of least resistance. Three emotional-command pathways stand out in terms of freeing you to create an enriching life story.
.
1. The practice of curiosity (rather than judgment).
.
The emotion of curiosity fosters an optimal learning environment for your mind and body, and brain. Curiosity allows you to maintain a learning orientation to events and life around you. Unlike rigid thinking and judgements which activate fear, curiosity sparks optimism and positive expectations for growth and progress. It fulfills a natural seeking — and need to learn and grow our knowledge and understanding, and learn how to optimize our happiness, optimally, to treat your life and life around you as treasures that you have the honor of experiencing. Emotions of curiosity also spark possibility thinking processes.
.
In contrast, the wounded ego-self is primarily focused on limiting learning to improving defenses, protection, ensuring survival, and so on, and thus keeps your mind and body hyper-vigilant, on-guard and on the look out for perceived threats that help you maintain distance and a protective level of mistrust of others. Your body also stops normal processes of growth in survival mode, such as cell regeneration, in order to conserve energy for defense.  Of course, wherever and whenever survival is really, really at stake, survival mode serves well.
2.  The practice of flexibility (instead of unyielding rigidity).
.
The emotion state of flexibility is one that frees you to be grounded in your power to make choices. It allows you to access higher cortex processes, such as reflective or possibility thinking, which increase your chances of learning how to protect your happiness and fulfill your own core emotion-drives to matter, to meaningfully connect in relation to life and others, and so on — and not just depend or wait for others to “make you” feel good enough, deserving, loved, loving, and so on. Life is a series of choices, and you always have a choice.
.
In contrast, rigid either-or or black-and-white thinking can lead you to make unrealistic conclusions, such as that you must “control” certain events or other persons, and this maintains the illusion that it is desirable or even possible to control others. This belief leads to much suffering. In truth, you’ve alwayes been in control of your life, and your greatest power is always your ability to choice at any moment how you respond (emotions, thoughts, beliefs, actions etc.).  No one has power over you because they cannot control your heart. No force or fear-based logic, regardless how sound, can open the human heart. Only love can do that.
.
You are not your emotions and thoughts, or the events you’ve experienced; you are much more. You are the observer, the choice-maker, and your choices in how you respond are a life-shaping power that can keep you on course to realize happiness and fulfillment, and navigate away from being tossed around by the emotion-activating behaviors of persons or events around you. In truth, it is your responses to your experiences that hold the power to shape who you are and become, thus, shape the direction of your life. To make positive change, you must own the power you have to choose, and to embrace this power to create optimal and ever wiser responses to what most challenges and triggers you.
.
3. The practice of presence (rather than the anxiety about the future or regrets about past). See the most important moment in your life is always now, the present.
.
The most important moment in your life is always the present one. It is the only place of power to make a new an optimal choice that would perhaps positively effect the future.  An emotional state of presence allows you, at any given time and especially in triggering moments, to remain connected to the inner sources of power and wisdom, knowledge and understanding of the past, and to do so connected to your awareness. The present moment is a space in time that is pure power.
.
There is no other moment in which you may actually exercise your power to choose. To forget this puts you at risk that some fear-based emotion will hold your mind hostage either in the past (i.e., regret) or the future (i.e., anxiety), or both. Safe to say, life is an eternity of present moments. Life issues can only be resolved in the now experience of them. Healing of past or future anxiety occurs in the present. Even you talk about the past or plan for the future, your subconscious mind and body experience this in the present moment. This explains why attempting to solve any problem “for all time” gets you stuck. Attempting to create plans to avoid certain emotions is counterproductive, and these emotions promote growth and healing.
.
This is good news. It means if you really want to heal the past or break free of anxiety about the future, healing is always a breath away.  Life is to be lived one moment at a time – or risk not being lived at all.
.
You always have a choice in how you respond to events in and around you. This helps you stay centered in your power from within as you come to realize, more and more, that events do not define or shape you.
 

The Power of Subconscious Learning: Transform Your Thoughts, Transform Your Life

Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

images-823Findings show that thoughts are powerful activators of life transforming inner processes. They activate neurochemical signals that accordingly generate emotions and actions, learning and change, to include the formation of behavioral patterns or habits.

Subconscious learning in itself is a powerful and efficient built-in capacity. When what we learn is aligned by chance to our goals and highest interests for personal and relational health and well being, it can support us to grow in positive directions and to realize amazing and creative outcomes and passions. What if it doesn’t however? Limiting beliefs or toxic thinking patterns can harm our health, keep us stuck in life-draining addictive behavior patterns, and at best place limits on our happiness.


The Relationship Building Power of Empathy: Seven Actions of Empathic Listeners, 3 of 3

Monday, March 31st, 2014

images-346Empathy empowers grace and harmony in our lives and relationships.

Without empathy, we’re not connected to the otherwise amazing inner resources available to help us restore or keep our connection to built-in capacities to think and feel, and, when necessary, to shift to optimal thoughts and feelings, imagine new possibilities, transform fears, make optimal choices, and ultimately grow wiser learning from our mistakes.

It is in empathic relationships that we learn to feel safe enough to compassionately connect with what is going on inside of us — rather than run away or react aggressively — when we feel triggered or stressed.

Part 1 outlined key intentions underlying empathy, and Part 2 listed three of seven actions that naturally flow from seeking to genuinely connect with another human being at deeper levels. Here are the remaining four:

4. Seek to understand (other) before being understood. 

This allows you to focus your attention on listening to understand the other’s heart with compassion (as you’d likely wish if you were them). In this place, you are present in mind and body, and are seeking what is in the highest interest of both, ultimately, to grow your compassion for your self and the other as human beings.


The Relationship Building Power of Empathy: Seven Conscious Actions of Empathic Listeners, 2 of 3

Friday, March 28th, 2014

images-345
Empathy is a key emotion in building healthy, vibrant, mutually enriching relationships.

In Part 1, we described empathy as a form of love, a gift of our presence to actively listen, to emotionally connect, and to provide a holding place that shares the intensity of another’s experience. We also said that, consciously or subconsciously, empathy stems from certain intentions. It doesn’t stop there, however.

Actions are an essential part of expressing, giving and receiving love. Action seals the deal; and this is the topic of this post.

Without action, the best of intentions have no meaning, in other words, as if they never occurred or existed. Relationships are living entities, and they require certain actions to remain alive. 


The Relationship Building Power of Empathy: Four Intentions of Empathic Listeners, 1 of 3

Monday, March 17th, 2014

images-344Empathic listeners are relationship builders. They have a cultivated ability for being present, empathically connected. How do you cultivate empathy however? It starts with set intentions, at least four of them.

For human beings, empathy may be one of the greatest gifts to give or to receive, and perhaps one of our deepest yearnings. It is a form of love, an aspect of love that is expressed through the act of listening to understand from the eyes and heart of another (or self). This is what makes empathy an essential ability to cultivate, and thoughtfully give.

When someone we love disappoints us in some way, this can automatically trigger painful emotions inside.

And when we are in pain, for example, feeling hurt, angry, or disappointed, often one of our greatest yearnings is for empathy, that is, an understanding love from another human being that affirms, in a moment of need, that we are valued. We want to know that our feelings and life matter. And thus a common human undertaking is to look for evidence that another loves us enough to want to understand us from our own perspective, to want us to have what we want (even when not possible), to want to see us happy and fulfilled, personally as well as in our relationship, and so on.


 
 

Subscribe to this Blog: Feed

Recent Comments
  • Athena Staik, Ph.D.: Appreciate your comment and interest in the article on “First Task of Life.” Yes, we...
  • Athena Staik, Ph.D.: Great advice, “baffled,” thanks for your interest in this article and stopping by to...
  • Athena Staik, Ph.D.: Thanks for commenting, CJ, as with your comment on my article on Pornography you ask several...
  • Athena Staik, Ph.D.: Thanks for writing and sharing, CJ. A partner will only change when they want to, and SEE the...
  • CJ: My soon to be ex-husband is a porn addict. He is also a minister. The ways his addiction has damaged him, me and...
Find a Therapist
Enter ZIP or postal code



Users Online: 12240
Join Us Now!