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Addictive Relating

Sex and Love Addiction: Five Ways the Dominance Factor Erodes or Blocks Couple Intimacy

Though dominance as a value may make sense on the battlefield, in love relationships, tactics of war are the problem. Dominance and tactics to enforce hierarchical relations are guaranteed to produce needless suffering in the form of win-lose competitions, pursue-withdraw dynamics, illusions of power, and toxic relating patterns.

Whereas dominance is a socially approved behavior for males (considered "norm" in many cases), the opposite is true for women. Regardless who starts the...
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Conscious Lifestyle

Genuine Love: Four Elements of Love (Practices for Awakening the Heart), 2 of 2

Whether you and your partner are just getting started in building your love relationship, or struggling to get back the love and connection that once came naturally, the wise and mindful reflections of Zen monk Thich Nhat Hanh offer couples amazing insights, a breath of fresh air, inviting you and your partner to take the reins of your love and adapt practices focused on awakening both of your hearts.

In this post, we will look at the four key elements of genuine...
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General

What Works and Doesn’t to Create a Vibrant Couple Relationship

Relationships are a science, governed by formulas. Cultivating harmony in a couple relationship is similar to solving algebraic equations with variables on both sides; you must necessarily work on both sides of the equation to keep it balanced. If you do not, it’s not solved — or “true.”

When all is said and done, the realization of a healthy, vibrant couple relationship involves, on the one hand, identifying and doing more of what works to increase...
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Conscious Lifestyle

Your Connection to an Authentic Life: Four Principles Michelangelo Lived By, 1 of 2

David by Buonarroti, Michelangelo Galleria dell' Accademia, Florence, Italy

In the book The Michelangelo Method, authors Ken Schuman and Ron Paxton present Michelangelo as a model for living life authentically. His beliefs and approach to life are worth looking into, perhaps even adopting. Michelangelo carved the statue of David from a giant block of...
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Conscious Lifestyle

12 Steps to Increase Your Happiness (Optimize Your Thinking-Feeling Habits!), 3 of 4

Are you waiting for happiness to arrive as a result of reaching a certain outcome?

If so, you may be missing a key point. A state of mind set on happiness is a vital fuel that creates more happiness -- making the achievement of goals easier, more effortless, and and the best guarantees you'll enjoy your success once realized.

Happiness is the way so to speak, not a goal.

To develop an optimal life-changing thinking-feeling mindset, let happiness to lead the way. This doesn't men...
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Conscious Lifestyle

Flow & the Science of Happiness, 2 of 3


Speaking of happiness, developing the ability to shift to positive states of mind and body is also how champions or virtuosos intuitively achieve excellence in their field, a state of happiness so profound words do not suffice.

In Part 1, we considered what timeless wisdom and the science of happiness say about the power of our thoughts, more specifically, the cause-effect relationship between our thoughts and the feelings they spark, and how these shapes our lives and behaviors,...
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Conscious Lifestyle

Timeless Wisdom & the Science of Happiness: To Change Your Life, Change Your Mind (Not Others…)

"The mind is everything; what you think, you become." ~ BUDDHA
Thoughts are not simply airy pieces of information that enter our minds and then disappear. The words and ideas we think, and the accompanying feelings they spark, shape our lives and behaviors, driving us toward success and happiness ... or failure and distress.

Thoughts are energy. They produce emotions and physiological feelings, and these are powerful forces...
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Conscious Lifestyle

3 Winning Strategies (or Capacities to Cultivate) to Enhance Personal and Relationship Happiness

Life can be challenging, complete with bumps and unexpected turns, and not-so-easy lessons to learn. All of us, at one time or other, have been down a road or two that brought immense pain and challenged us in multifaceted ways. What shaped our life ultimately, however, was the way we responded to these events in our life, and not the events themselves.

Thus, we need winning strategies because it is your consistent responses to life events,...
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Addictive Relating

5 Steps to Break a Habit of Arguing With Your Child, 2 of 3

Part 1 outlined five reasons why "arguing" with your children as a parent is a lose-lose proposition. Nobody wins, and you instead risk losing serious ground in terms of the effects on the relationship between you and your child. In human terms, it's safe to say that, based on the latest findings on the brain, attachment and neuroscience, key relationships intimately impact every aspect of human health and ongoing development, to include other relationships (, spouse, self, children that are siblings, etc.) in...
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Emotional Mastery

5 Reasons Why You Want to Avoid Arguing With Your Child, 1 of 3

Parenting is likely the most difficult job in the world. It's easy to get into fights that turn into parent-child power struggles. Regardless of the magnitude of an issue, however, whether it's a relatively minor one of brushing teeth or bigger ones over homework and curfews, there are several reasons parents want to pause and consider before getting into arguments - in fact, it's best to avoid them altogether (like a plague).

Let me clarify. This does not mean to allow children to do what they want; parents are responsible to fulfill, and not abdicate, their role as leaders. There is a clear difference, however, between dealing with disagreements in your parent roles of teacher, mentor and guide, and habitual patterns of dismissing, talking over one another, and attack-counter attack interactions.

There are at least five reasons to (seriously) consider before arguing with your child (or spouse for that matter).
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