Archives for February, 2013

Conscious Lifestyle

Conscious Communication, 1 of 2: Eight Attributes of Conscious-Talking

Conscious communication is a way of talking and listening that is focused on growing strong, mutually enriching relationships. Since most relationship problems are rooted in communications that are either avoided, forced or misinterpreted, the purpose is to provide an emotional experience that allows each person to feel safe enough to grow a quality relationship in which key emotional needs (not wants…) are expressed, mutually valued -- and met through natural giving. (To give naturally, by the way, is to give from a place of overall love or joy, as opposed to fear or guilt or shame.) When you express your self in ways that stretch you, particularly in moments where you may not “feel” like doing so, you exercise your ability to stretch and courageously develop the capacity to authentically love your self and another.
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Addictive Relating

10 Things Men Do That Turn Their Partner On For A Lifetime

Ah women, what makes them happy with their partner, and what turns them on sexually, can be baffling to men. But not because men and women are from different planets. As a recent study showed, in truth, both are from the same planet Earth; they share more in common, at least intellectually, mentally and emotionally, than they are different. And the differences? Well, let's just say, "Vive la difference!" Myths that baffle men and women? You wouldn't know how much men and women have in common from what science and other writings have proclaimed for centuries, and in more recent decades, media and entertainment industries (and especially pornography) have reinforced and embellished mythical portrayals of women as potentially dangerous to men, akin to unruly children who must be dominated, not trusted or spoiled ("for their own good"). Myths of romanticized dominance (eroticized, for men) still prevail. It's not unusual for male partners to think its their job, on the one hand, to fix or set their partners straight, tell them what to do or think, scold or punish if she doesn't follow his advice, and then blame her for making him feel inadequate for not allowing him to do his job. While it may feel he has failed, the real problem largely lies in a set of strategies men are conditioned from boyhood to use in order to deliberately block emotional intimacy. 
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