A union between a man and a woman is special, a relationship like no other.

Its initial stages have been compared, in studies, to the most potent of addictive drugs, dumping a mixture of hormones in the bloodstream that can drive otherwise ‘normal’ people to do crazy things.

The anniversary of your relationship, with each passing year, deserves a beautiful celebration. Of course, there are the traditional flowers, dinner, candlelight, reciting or renewing your wedding vows, or exciting getaways.

To connect to the heart of what brings meaning, consider adding one or more of the following five ways to celebrate, alongside your favorites:

1. Bring to mind the first steps … 

… of your life together. Life consists of a series of milestones. There are fresh starts around every corner. Ponder the firsts. The first meeting. When you first ‘knew’ your partner was ‘the one.’ Putting together a home. Becoming parents. Replay these memories.

2. Recollect building a life together …

… and the hurdles you conquered. Every year unfolds a unique mix of ups and downs, fresh revelations, novel challenges, and unique resolutions. Remember the times you stood by each other. How you resolved conflict. Reflect on how your growth, as individuals, strengthened your relationship. Reiterate the stories.

3. Honor the friendship … 

… at the heart of your relationship. What is unique about friendship? Fun! Life is too serious to take too seriously! Fun protects your relationship from the natural wear and tear of daily living. Life is replete with challenges. They’re there to grow us. Never wait to have fun, however. Find joy and ways to appreciate and enjoy one another. Laugh a lot. Get cuddly. Hold hands. Look into each other’s eyes. Make it a regular.

4. Ponder the lessons …

… learned through the years. Relish the gift of what brought you together, as life partners, on this journey called life. Get comfortable with challenges, their customized to optimally grow you. The practice of forgiveness. The choice in how you communicate. The importance of working together as partners. Balancing your giving and receiving. Keep the lessons close to your heart.

5. Renew your commitment …

… to one another. A vibrant couple relationship consists of a lifetime of ‘I do’s’ and not ‘I already have’s.’ Commitment is choice to nurture the health of your relationship with your self and your partner, especially, in moments when one of both of you seem ‘unlovable.’  Be proud of what you have together. No matter how busy life is, make time to assure one another of your commitment to each other’s well being, and to create togetherness moments for a lifetime.

Imagine the possibilities …

… of what is to come in a future radiant with hope, love and belief in one another and your relationship.

Connecting with your eyes and touch, and affectionately engaging your minds and hearts, are not only romantic. These practices release oxytocin, a hormone known as the ‘safety and love’ tonic. Once associated with bonding between mother and child, the release of this hormone inclines you to further connect. In other words, the more you celebrate your love, the more you want to.

Notably, oxytocin also nourishes the cells of the brain and body with health. Another reason to celebrate

In this vast universe, you found one another, and decided to spend the rest of your life together.

Savor what you have on your anniversary and every day of your life together.

Congratulations!

 


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Staik, A. (2011). 5 Ways to Celebrate a Beautiful Anniversary. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 25, 2014, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2011/09/5-ways-to-celebrate-a-beautiful-wedding-anniversary/

 

 

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