General

Holding the Mast in the Dark Night Sea Storm

Linda: We can see intention as a light guiding our way through a dark passage. Or we can see intention as a machete blazing a trail through a thick jungle, opening up a path to traverse. But my favorite image is the mast of the ship in the dark night sea storm. There are no feelings that are more turbulent than those that occur while fighting with someone we love. When we fight, it can feel like we are adrift in a violent, dark night sea storm. When feelings are churning like the wild rolling waves, and we are in danger of being thrown overboard, we can run to hold fast to the mast (the tall, strong, sturdy pole in the center of the ship). It is the safest place to stand when the seas get rough. Sometimes the storm is so violent, that we may have to lash ourselves to the mast so that we are not lost at sea. If we stay close to our intention, we are saved and eventually the storm will pass.
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The Art of Friendship in Marriage

Photo courtesy of Diego Cervo

When our partner is our best friend


There is an African saying goes like this:
A friend is someone who knows your song and sings it to you when you have forgotten it. Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel ugly; your wholeness when you are broken;...
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Commitment

If I Know What I Need To Do, Why Can’t I Just Do It?

If simply understanding what it takes to create a happier life were enough to achieve that goal, reading a book, listening to a tape, or watching a DVD would be sufficient for any person seeking this goal. As many of us have noticed, however, knowing what to do isn’t necessarily enough to get the job done. “I know what to do, so why don’t I just do it?” is one of the most frequently asked questions that we get from clients and students in our workshops. It’s puzzling to many of us that although we may believe that we know what life changes will make us happier, we often cannot bring ourselves to make them.
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Commitment

Why Tough Love Can Be the Best Thing for Your Relationship

"A failure to confront is a failure to love.” —Scott Peck    

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No one likes critical feedback. We often avoid criticism by discouraging those who give it, or dismissing it as invalid. It’s hard to hear that someone feels mistrust, disappointment, or anger toward us. But avoiding "tough love" denies us the opportunity to enhance respect and trust in our relationships and our lives.

Invalidating a partner's feelings undermines the level of trust and respect in...
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Commitment

Re-setting Your Happiness Set Point

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“The purpose of life is to be happy”  - His Holiness the Dalai Lama
It may be surprising to hear these words from one of the world’s leading spiritual teachers. We tend to associate spirituality with the achievement of enlightened states of conscious development, rather than a state of personal happiness. 
And although at first glance the...
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