Why Tough Love Can Be the Best Thing for Your Relationship

"A failure to confront is a failure to love.” —Scott Peck    

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No one likes critical feedback. We often avoid criticism by discouraging those who give it, or dismissing it as invalid. It’s hard to hear that someone feels mistrust, disappointment, or anger toward us. But avoiding "tough love" denies us the opportunity to enhance respect and trust in our relationships and our lives.

Invalidating a partner's feelings undermines the level of trust and respect in...
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Re-setting Your Happiness Set Point

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“The purpose of life is to be happy”  - His Holiness the Dalai Lama
It may be surprising to hear these words from one of the world’s leading spiritual teachers. We tend to associate spirituality with the achievement of enlightened states of conscious development, rather than a state of personal happiness. 
And although at first glance the...
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Honoring the Rule of Reciprocation

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In his book, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, Robert Cialdini makes reference to what he considers to be one of the most important yet often unrecognized factors inherent in the art and practice of influence and persuasion, two highly significant aspects of effective communications. Whether we involved in personal relations, business transactions, politics, sales, education, or any...
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Want to keep love alive? Here’s how.

"Date Your Mate"
There is an idea going around that you may have heard, that-long term relationships eventually and inevitably become flat and boring. Unfortunately all too many people believe this myth and act accordingly. That is, they expect this to happen and when they experience moments in which feelings of attraction, desire, or sexual excitement are not powerfully stimulating, they assume that the flame has gone out and that the...
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