“Be careful what you wish for.”

“I hate that one,” a friend said. “Life is so difficult already, and they’re saying you’re not even supposed to wish?”

That little aphorism is so old and musty and familiar, I never gave it much thought until my friend said that. But now that she mentions it…what the hell?

What kind of crippling curse is that to put on someone? How can you wish for anything when you are told that there’s a damn good chance that wish will blow up in your face?

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Wish All You Want, It Can’t Hurt

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  1. Sophia,
    I’m sorry your friend is as cynical as people claim that I am, though while I understand where she’s coming from it’s your side I take. Rather I clinch into your motto to be careful how you handle it.
    Consider travel, which you write about a lot. Travel is like wish fulfillment. No matter how much you prepare, no matter how much research you do, you’ll still be reeling in culture shock, hating major parts of your experience, and comparing it to your previous safe life back at home. On the other hand, you get to see life on more macroscopic levels. What you do with those visions reveals a lot about you.
    So go ahead: Wish. And travel. Just try to keep things in perspective along the way.

    Cheers y saludos

  2. The whole quote, if I’m remembering correctly, is: “Be careful what you wish for, it may come true.” And frankly, I think it’s a brilliant one. We all tend to automatically assume that wishes coming true will be wonderful. This quote invites you to do a double take: If you actually get *that*, will it really be so wonderful? It’s true that there’s usually a lot of thinking and doing between wishing and getting, but how often people direct that thinking to wondering whether the goal was a good one to start with?

    Wishing away and then being a bit careful about what you do about your wish isn’t the same thing as having a rule that as soon as you feel a goal taking shape in your mind, the first thing you do is to question if it’s a worthwhile goal. And that’s a very good rule.

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