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Are You Bored With Your Life?

Bored? Explore. You never know what you might find.

If you tell my 80-year-old dad you're bored, he'll tell you, "Boredom is a privilege." He said he heard this from a taxi driver in NYC about a decade ago, and he never forgot it. That cab ride held an "ah-ha" moment for him, I guess, and it's recently that I'm catching on.

Boredom can be a good thing or a bad thing. It depends on how you handle it.

Bad boredom

Some women cause a stir when bored....
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Strategies In Facing Conflict: Conflict Avoiders Take Note!


 

Women have a tendency to be conflict avoiders. Of course there are big (and memorable) exceptions.

You don't want to be either one of these people because, in the long run, neither extremes will be productive for you or the other party.

Womens' passivity in conflict is complicated. We are socialized to be cooperative and to be pleasers. In addition, if we do veer off this role, there can be big societal consequences. B-I-T-C-H. Luckily, I think the current generations are moving away from this more and more. But, the fear of conflict remains.

Fear of conflict is a theme I hear repeatedly with friends, colleagues, and with my clients in therapy.
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7 Ways People Create Conflict

Conflict is everywhere. We see it on the news amongst countries. Living in the city, I see road rage every day. Yesterday, a man kicked another man's car. That guy tore off leaving the kicker in a street-corner rant.

Conflict between friends, family or colleagues can have a big impact on our inner life. This is not to say that the guy who had his car kicked wasn't...
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She’s Ruining My Life Every Day: Workplace Bullies

The Psychology of Women once again welcomes Lauren Bittner to the Giveaway Girl project. Lauren is an award-winning freelance writer who focuses on women's issues. She is a self-titled Giveaway Girl. Today, Lauren offers insights about how to handle #workprobs — workplace bullies.
A Tale of Two Entirely Different Workplace Bullies

Dealing with workplace bullies leaves me feeling completely disempowered at times. That’s not surprising for a Giveaway...
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The Greatest Secret To Improving Your Relationship Is…

Improve yourself!

I mean it.

If you like yourself, you are happier in your relationships.

A good friend told me her husband was pissing her off. “I can't stand him anymore,” she said.  Sometimes, we adults can sound a lot like the complaints I hear from my kids about school. “She does this! She does that!” And a mom’s response, “Don’t think about what other people are doing. Take care of your business.” Or my personal favorite, "Cook on your own grill." Bing! This isn’t that much different sometimes.

So my advice to my friend  starts with this: Focus on you now.

Fulfill yourself first because when you are fulfilled and feel the security that comes with that, you are much less likely to get annoyed with other people, judge other people, get irritated by other people. This is especially true of an intimate partner.  (A study in the
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Feeling Cupid or Feeling Crushed on Valentine’s Day

The Psychology of Women once again welcomes Lauren Bittner to the Giveaway Girl project. Lauren is an award-winning freelance writer who focuses on women's issues. She is a self-titled Giveaway Girl. Today, Lauren gets to the heart of Valentine's Day.
Wow, do I know what it’s like to be the Giveaway Girl on Valentine’s Day. Unfortunately for my significant other, Valentine’s Day only fell two months after we started dating...
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Divorce and Giving It Away

The Psychology of Women welcomes Lauren Bittner to the Giveaway Girl project. Lauren is an award-winning freelance writer who focuses on women's issues. She is a self-titled Giveaway Girl. Today, Lauren offers insight into the difficulties of divorce as seen through her interviews with women and the professionals guiding them.
Like many of you, I know what it’s like to be a Giveaway Girl. I am...
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Men Have Trouble Expressing Their Emotions

Men have difficulty expressing their emotions.

Steady Eddie tells his wife everything is fine and never complains. He never gets upset about anything. He doesn’t really get that excited about anything either. When his wife asks him if he is worried about his job when the company gets taken over and everybody’s job is getting slashed, he shakes his head no and responds with an “It is what it is.” Weirdly, he...
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Why Don’t You Want Me?

Why don’t you want me?

Is there something inherently wrong with this car because I didn't want it?

I went car shopping recently. I needed an automobile that fit certain requirements: Space to carry ___ number of people, good gas mileage, particular price, small enough to maneuver from alley into garage and vice versa. I found a few cars that matched. I looked at them. I drove them. Some I liked. Some...
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