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Boundaries

Are Your Kids Ruling the Roost? Parenting A Strong-Willed Child

Do you have to raise your voice, lecture or repeat yourself to get your kids to behave?
Do your kids ignore normal, everyday requests when they just don’t feel like listening?
Have you tried to avoid spanking and yelling but nothing else seems to work?
Are you exhausted and upset because your kids seem disrespectful, entitled or ungrateful for all the things you do for them?
 Are you feeling frustrated and defeated despite your best...
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Communication

What We Have Here is a Failure to Communicate!

I am constantly shocked and reminded just how easy it is to hurt or be hurt by our loved ones due to problems of communication. Communication is supposed to consist of both talking and listening in somewhat equal measure. But regrettably, sometimes there is one but not the other. Sound familiar?

In some families, everyone seems to be talking but no one is listening. In others, members of a couple or family feel alone, left in...
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Brain Research

Laughter Really Is the Best Medicine

"The art of medicine consists of amusing the patient while nature cures the disease." -Voltaire

Although we have known instinctively for millennia that laughter, like crying, can be a powerful antidote to pain and suffering, the scientific world is finally catching up. According to the American Association for Therapeutic Humor, laughter may have a direct effect on the body's ability to fight infections, boosting the number of "killer" white blood cells produced to attack...
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Communication

Do You Want to Avoid the Next Fight?

Most people are now aware that high levels of conflict--loud, angry or bitter fighting--can be tremendously destructive not only to marriages and intimate relationships but can cause lasting harm to the children caught in the crossfire.

As painful as divorce can be for kids, what we know now is that excessive fighting is what troubles kids--whether the family remains intact or not. On the flip side, disagreements and differences go hand in hand with any relationship...
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Anxiety

10 Tips to Help Kids Cope with War & Traumatic Events

"I dream of giving birth to a child who will ask, 'Mother, what was war?'" ~Eve Merriam

These are uncertain, turbulent times, colored as they are by fears about war and terrorism. As a result, children as well as adults are experiencing higher levels of stress.

When a flu bug is going around, conscientious parents make sure their child is getting plenty of sleep, vitamins, and a healthy diet to build their immune system....
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Change

Confronting Your Ghosts of the Past: How to Assess Your Relationship

"In every conceivable manner, the family is the link to our past, the bridge to our future." -Alex Haley
If you were one of the lucky people, raised in a happy loving family, you've most likely emerged with many of the skills and strengths necessary to form lasting healthy you are probably NOT reading this blog right now.
Unfortunately, far too many people were raised by parents filled...
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Change

Guidelines for Choosing the Right Therapist–Does the Shoe Fit?

I will never forget a lecture that I heard in 1973 (which says a lot since there is so much that I don't remember). The speaker was the late David Rosenhan, Professor Emeritus, in his popular undergraduate class in Abnormal Psychology at Stanford. Each year, at the end of the term, he gave a lecture about choosing the right therapist. His advice was wise and as relevant today as it was forty years...
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Families

Create an Attitude of Gratitude

"At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us." - Albert Schweitzer

Schweitzer's quote seemed especially timely given the arrival of the Thanksgiving holidays and this year's rare convergence of Thanksgiving and the first day of Hanukkah, the Jewish festival of lights.

Both holidays are celebrations of religious freedom...
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Communication

Is Your Child Acting Spoiled? 4 Tips for Parents of Toddlers to Teens

Does your child whine too much of the time?

Are you delighted that school has started again, and your child is out of your hair for a few quiet hours?

Is "NO!" her favorite word?

Does he continue to throw temper tantrums long after the terrible two's should have passed?

Does she keep demanding what she wants until it drives you crazy?

If you have answered yes to any or...
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Anxiety

Fighting the Depression Demon in Kids–Alternative Approaches

“Music can lift us out of depression or move us to tears - it is a remedy, a tonic, orange juice for the ear. -Oliver Sacks

Although for some kids, finding the right medication is a life-changer, there are many parents who are adamantly opposed to putting their kids on drugs--particularly without trying something more holistic first. There is great news on many different fronts as well as new research from around the world, showing that there are alternative approaches to treatment shown to be effective in combatting depression in children and teens. Here are just a few of them that have recently caught my eye...

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