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Anxiety

10 Tips to Help Kids Cope with War & Traumatic Events

"I dream of giving birth to a child who will ask, 'Mother, what was war?'" ~Eve Merriam

These are uncertain, turbulent times, colored as they are by fears about war and terrorism. As a result, children as well as adults are experiencing higher levels of stress.

When a flu bug is going around, conscientious parents make sure their child is getting plenty of sleep, vitamins, and a healthy diet to build their immune system....
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The Aftermath of the Isla Vista Massacre: What Can Be Learned

The tragedy in Isla Vista has left my precious Santa Barbara community—and the nation—reeling. The senseless violence, claiming the lives of innocent young people, has stimulated many different conversations…Conversations about mental illness, about more stringent gun control laws, about violence against women, about inappropriate parenting and the rise of narcissism.

No one, myself included, wants to accept that we are utterly powerless, and that the rising tide of mass murders cannot be stopped. We should all...
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Anxiety

Stressed to the Limit. No End in Sight.

"Future shock is the shattering stress and disorientation that we induce in individuals by subjecting them to too much change in too short a time." -Alvin Toffler

I received a call from a distressed mother last week asking if her whole family could come to see me. "I'm really worried," she explained. "Every one of us in the family is completely stressed out, and we need to find out how to cope better."

I am...
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Boundaries

The Age of Enlightenment or the Age of Entitlement?

Fasten your seat belts and prepare for some disturbing trends showing up in America these about what these statistics and stories all have in
Spending More than We Earn
Americans spend trillion dollars on their credit cards each year. Sadly, over 40% are spending more money than they are earning. Studies show that people spend far more money using credit cards than they would spend if they were paying with...
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Boundaries

Sleeping Your Way to Greater Health and Happiness

"A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor's book." ~Irish Proverb
Honestly answer the following questions:
Do you have to set your alarm in order to wake up in the morning?

Do you wake up your kids--before they would get up on their own--to be ready for school or camp?

Do people in your family wake up cranky and out of sorts?

Do you ever fall asleep watching TV, at the movies, or listening to a less than exciting lecture?

Do you or your kids crave sugary foods or caffeine in the afternoon because your energy is lagging?
WARNING! These are all possible signs of sleep deprivation.
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Anxiety

Fighting the Depression Demon in Kids–Alternative Approaches

“Music can lift us out of depression or move us to tears - it is a remedy, a tonic, orange juice for the ear. -Oliver Sacks

Although for some kids, finding the right medication is a life-changer, there are many parents who are adamantly opposed to putting their kids on drugs--particularly without trying something more holistic first. There is great news on many different fronts as well as new research from around the world, showing that there are alternative approaches to treatment shown to be effective in combatting depression in children and teens. Here are just a few of them that have recently caught my eye...

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Anxiety

Depressed? Don’t Just Go for the Pills

"The principle aim of psychotherapy is not to transport one to an impossible state of happiness, but to help (the client) acquire steadfastness and patience in the face of suffering. " Jung

Just yesterday, a friend told me how her family doctor prescribed her mother antidepressants for twenty years. She was outraged that he never encouraged her to get counseling as well. She believes her mom could be happier if encouraged to grieve...
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Families

The Healing Power of Nature

"Everybody needs beauty as well as bread, places to play in and pray in, where nature may heal and give strength to body and soul."  ~John Muir

In my last blog on the growing numbers of kids being diagnosed with ADHD, I wondered out loud about the potential negative effects in our modern culture of things like: too much time spent indoors, too little sun and exercise, too many electronics, and not...
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Families

The ADHD Epidemic: Is There Anything Parents Can Do?

I have spent countless hours in deep discussion with both parents and professionals questioning why so many kids are being diagnosed these days with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) or Attention Deficit with Hyperactivity (ADHD). Is there some causal contributor in our food or environment? Is it due to changes in parenting practices? School environments? The increase in technology in everyday life? The lobbying power of drug companies? All of the above?
What Are the Facts?
The number...
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Families

Media Meteor Hits 33 Million Homes: Secrets to a Happy Family Revisited

If you get the Sunday newspaper, you were probably one of the 33 million subscribers who saw yesterday's Parade Magazine cover story, "The Secrets to a Happy Family," by the New York Times columnist, best-selling author and dad, Bruce Feiler. Feiler is perhaps best known for his book Walking the Bible, also made into a wonderful PBS series. I respect the man for many reasons--he is a great writer, an intrepid explorer of diverse cultures...
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