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10 Tips to Help Kids Cope with War & Traumatic Events

"I dream of giving birth to a child who will ask, 'Mother, what was war?'" ~Eve Merriam

These are uncertain, turbulent times, colored as they are by fears about war and terrorism. As a result, children as well as adults are experiencing higher levels of stress.

When a flu bug is going around, conscientious parents make sure their child is getting plenty of sleep, vitamins, and a healthy diet to build their immune system....
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Could You Be Suffering from the Summertime Blues?

Summer is in full swing and all around you, people seem to be enjoying themselves. Happy to be outdoors, puttering in the garden, reading cheesy novels, going to the beach or nearby parks for picnics. Not only do you not get it, you feel worse just seeing their rosy complexions. Like Scrooge at Christmas, you want to scream "Baaaah humbug!" but nobody wants to hear your complaints.

Or perhaps it's not you but one of your...
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10 Tips to Manage Stress More Effectively

—Countless research studies have underscored how anxiety and depression correlate significantly with an individual's sense of control or lack of control over his or her own destiny. The same thing is true when it comes to stress.

In fact, given our mortality combined with our lack of control over so much of life, stress goes hand in hand with being human. Although we can't make all our stresses disappear with a magic wand, we can...
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Stressed to the Limit. No End in Sight.

"Future shock is the shattering stress and disorientation that we induce in individuals by subjecting them to too much change in too short a time." -Alvin Toffler

I received a call from a distressed mother last week asking if her whole family could come to see me. "I'm really worried," she explained. "Every one of us in the family is completely stressed out, and we need to find out how to cope better."

I am...
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We Are Only As Sick as Our Secrets

"Anything will give up its secrets if you love it enough. Not only have I found that when I talk to the little flower or to the little peanut they will give up their secrets, but I have found that when I silently commune with people they give up their secrets also--if you love them enough."  -George Washington Carver

I've been a psychotherapist for over thirty years. I have long ago lost count of...
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Unhappy Relationships and Depression Go Hand in Hand

"What is the opposite of two? A lonely me. A lonely you." -Richard Wilbur

"It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages." -Friedrich Nietzsche

The TV ads would have all of us believe that the best cure for depression is the latest and greatest medication. First it was Prozac and now it's Pristiq and Abilify. Although medication is a life saver for many, for others the side effects are...
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When Cognitive Techniques Aren’t Enough: 5 Practices To Fight Stress

"To use fear as the friend it is, we must retrain and reprogram ourselves. We must persistently and convincingly tell ourselves that the fear is here–with its gift of energy and heightened awareness–so we can do our best and learn the most in the new situation." ~Peter Williams

Barely a week goes by these days without some mention of the skyrocketing rates of anxiety in our culture. Drugs are offered as a quick fix...
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The Perils of Perfectionism


“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” -Anna Quindlen

Would you like to be able to answer yes to the following questions? Would you like your partner to answer yes? Your children?
Do you prefer to be organized and disciplined? Is neatness important to you? Do you have high standards and expectations of yourself? Do you have a need...
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Uncovering Emotional Triggers

"Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our happiness."   -Victor Frankl

Have you ever walked into your parents' house as a mature adult and suddenly turned into a rebellious teenager? Or suddenly burst into tears (unlike those around you) at a certain scene in a movie? Or found yourself wanting to smack your child even though you would never do so? Or begun yelling at your wife because of the look on her face?
Welcome to Your Emotional Triggers!
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Bringing Death Out of The Shadows

There is a movement afoot across the planet. Since surfacing in England only a year and a half ago, news has spread from Europe to cities in America, Canada and Australia. Who would have thought that so many people would be so eager to talk about death--but they are.

Since the beginning of recorded history, people have come together with other members of their tribe or village to discuss matters important to the progress of their community. Tribal councils, town hall meetings, Greek symposia, European salons--all are examples of forums designed to give citizens a voice. Many ideas and movements for social change or personal transformation have been born in these types of gatherings.

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