Archives for November, 2012

Anxiety

Embracing Change, The Great Teacher

“Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.” -Andre Gide

What do things like asking loved ones for advice, reading stacks of self-help books, taking classes, searching for a good therapist, or hours of web-searching all have in common? You probably guessed it. There is something the seeker wishes to change. As a family therapist, I am called on for help with many different types of...
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Empathy

Practice Gratitude: A Thanksgiving Reminder

"If the only prayer you said in your whole life was thank you, that would suffice."    -Meister Eckhart

When Thanksgiving arrives each year,  just as the number of turkeys, stuffing mixes, green beans, and cranberries seem to grow exponentially, so do the conversations about gratitude. It is perhaps why it is one of everyone's favorite holidays. The lucky ones among us feast together on wonderful food, surrounded by friends and family, and say...
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Communication

The Myth of Happily Ever After

We are told that people stay in love because of chemistry, or because they remain intrigued with each other, because of many kindnesses, because of luck. But part of it has got to be forgiveness and gratefulness." -Ellen Goodman

In spite of the headlines revealing the breakdowns and sordid secrets inside the marriages of the rich and famous, most Americans who tie the knot seem to have bought the prevailing myth of romantic love. None...
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Boundaries

Are You Fighting About Money? Stop Before the Kids Hear You!

“Some debts are fun when you are acquiring them, but none are fun when you set about retiring them." -Ogden Nash

Most people have heard by now that high levels of conflict between a couple can be destructive not only for their relationship but can cause lasting harm to children caught in the crossfire. As painful as divorce can be for kids, what we know now is that excessive, bitter fighting is what troubles kids--whether...
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