I Want a Panic-Free Wedding: Eight Days Left!
I’m getting married in eight days. (Ahhhh! I’m getting married in EIGHT DAYS!)
Am I excited? Of course.
Am I nervous? YES YES A THOUSAND TIMES YES. (And I know that was an incomplete sentence and poor grammar to boot. But when we get nervous, proper writing convention gets gently nudged aside.)
I mean, there’s an entire laundry list of Things That Can Go Wrong…especially when my wedding is not only outdoors, but also practically in the woods and about 15 miles away from civilization. As a panicker, all three of the above factors generally scare the crap out of me.
I like to (er, I mean, I tend to) make mountains out of molehills. As tired as that cliche might be, it describes the process of catastrophizing pretty well. From PsychCentral’s own mental health library:
Catastrophizing is an irrational thought a lot of us have in believing that something is far worse than it actually is…we look to the future and anticipate all the things that are going to go wrong. We then create a reality around those thoughts (e.g. “It’s bound to all go wrong for me…”). Because we believe something will go wrong, we make it go wrong. [Emphasis added.]
It’s not like I want to make anything go wrong at my wedding, but I’m truly worried about the Things That Can Go Wrong. There’s the obvious stuff, like unexpected rain. Then there’s the klutzy stuff, like tripping and falling face first while walking down the aisle.
And then there’s the panic-related stuff. Dizziness at the altar. Nausea on the dance floor. A side of shortness of breath along with my dinner entree.
Stay tuned for my next post…in which, for better or for worse, I’ll detail that entire list of those Things.
But for now, what’s the worst thing that happened at your own wedding? And did it ruin your day?
Beretsky, S. (2012). I Want a Panic-Free Wedding: Eight Days Left!. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 1, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/panic/2012/06/i-want-a-panic-free-wedding-eight-days-left/