Do Lesbian Parents Really Want Heteronormative Rights?

By Colleen Logan • 4 min read
With the hetero model of marriage comes the same model of divorce.

With the hetero model of marriage comes the same model of divorce.

Do you remember wishing you had all the rights and privileges of a married heterosexual couple? I do. It was before that day in an attorney’s office when I looked at a calendar that my soon-to-be-ex’s lawyer had just handed me, listing in detail my business travel for the previous year. I knew immediately what it meant. Her carefully kept calendar was the bellwether of my demotion from equal mother to absent partner, very much the equivalent of when the father in a heterosexual couple learns in a divorce that he’s somehow instantly become the secondary parent.

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Adoption and Lesbian Parenting: Who is the Primary Mother?

By Colleen Logan • 3 min read

Women.FightingDue to the perilous configuration of being the non-biological mother of a son with my ex-partner, and a daughter with my wife (thank you Canada!), my kids have multiple parents and “spare” mothers. The “primary” mother – as seen by society – is an important designation. Believe me, whether inadvertently as we sort out our roles or as a purposeful weapon, the role of primary mother is a powerful tool.  But why does there have to be a primary mother? To answer this for myself required taking an honest look at my own experience of two mothers: one adoptive, one biological.  What makes a mother “primary”? What makes a mother real?

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Back to School With 3 Lesbian Moms and 2 Kids

By Colleen Logan • 3 min read

Avec mes pierres elles construiraient leur forteresse

Picture this: my partner and I have a daughter. That’s two moms. I also have a son with an ex-partner. That’s three moms. I happen to also have two mothers. And so, technically, that makes this a story of a mother with two mothers who is raising children with another mother and an ex-partner mother. That’s a heck of a lot of mothers!

Combine these admittedly confusing family dynamics with the start of the school year and you’ve got a situation that’s complicated at best and excruciatingly painful at worst. That’s because teachers, parents and other baffled onlookers are trying to sort out who are these kids’ moms, and who are these other mothers.

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Welcome to The Other Mother

By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. • Less than a min read

Parenting is a challenge in these fast-moving times. With kids always connected to their mobile devices and video games, it is a different world for most parents than the world they grew up in.

However, same-sex parents have an additional set of challenges. While the legalization of gay marriage is opening doors to couples everywhere, it also sheds light on the difficulties these couples face when having children of their own. What’s it like being “the other mother?” How do you answer questions your children may have?

That’s why I’m pleased to welcome Colleen Logan, Ph.D. and her blog, The Other Mother: Current Issues in Same-Sex Parenting to Psych Central. While juggling a busy career, Dr. Logan is also a lesbian mother. She’ll bring her thoughtful insights and experiences about same-sex parenting to her blog. You can read more about her here.

Please give Dr. Logan a warm Psych Central welcome!


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