Building strong relationships with others is essential in all areas of our lives: business, friendships, dating, parenting, etc. However, our daily word choices can undermine our attempts at getting closer to other people.
We can unwittingly be marking ourselves as untrustworthy, judgmental, and belittling when we use the following words in our everyday interactions.
Language is important! Beware how you use the following words…
According to research, 40% of people’s daily routines are habitual. Built over a lifetime of repetition, these habits seem to occur almost on their own.
Wiping your shoes on the mat; drinking coffee in the morning; having a cigarette while talking on the phone. Little things, like which sock you put on first, to locking your car doors, are habitual traits that require no conscious effort.
At the American Psychological Association’s 122nd Annual Convention, Wendy Wood gave an in-depth explanation about how habitual patterns work, as well as how to break them. She gives insight into why many diet fads and self-help books don’t work, as well as measures people take to make positive changes from old habits.
The human mind is an intricate marvel of complexity and adaptability. Yet there are undertakings that seem relatively easy to some people, but prove to be a tremendous challenge to others.
What determines if a new task is easy or difficult to learn? In NLP, we draw on existing, familiar, internal resources and apply them to the currently learning process. The following research reveals that this is a good strategy.
In a recent voluntary survey on willpower, 85% of participants reported an increase in willpower through a free, 5-day online willpower boot camp conducted via email.
As of this writing, 121 people have participated in the online willpower course. Updates may be posted at intervals as more data is acquired from future participants.
Participants registered for the course on a voluntary basis and paid no fee. For five consecutive days, participants received an email that asked them to report their results. A final survey delivered the results show below.
Making plans to lose weight is the easy part. Applying those plans consistently is what really matters.
The primary obstacles to consistently applying your plan to lose weight aren’t about knowing what to do. They’re emotional.
Read on to discover three obstacles you should consider as you implement your weight loss plan.
Teenage boys believe that girls their age should be less intelligent.
Teenage girls agree.
In 2014, teenage boys believe that a smarter, more capable girl makes them less manly.
Teenage girls play along, hiding their intelligence and talents so they don’t intimidate the boys. These are modern day teenagers, grade 8.
There isn’t a fix for that. We live in an imperfect world. The question is, are you doing the one thing that has been scientifically proven to take things from bad to worse?
The simple mental habit mentioned below has been shown to create the following symptoms:
• Chronic stress
• Reactive responses (as opposed to proactive responses)
• Low quality relationships
• Feelings of depression, isolation and despondence
• Lack of sleep
Recent research has pegged a mental habit – rumination – that guarantees low satisfaction, depressed mood and low productivity in people who do it consistently. The context of the study was a work environment, although it certainly applies in other areas of life.
I do not believe this study has credibility outside the specific population of women whose patterns were analyzed.
At any rate, the new look at why women have affairs reveals a provocative scenario, and raises some big questions.
Traditionally viewed, the role that married women are assumed to take when engaging in extra-marital affairs is thought to be driven by the need for love, emotional intimacy and affection.
Conventional wisdom suggests that women stray outside their marriage because they are emotionally dissatisfied.
Mike Bundrant is co-founder of the iNLP Center for personal development.
Communication is the cornerstone to keeping an intimate relationship strong and healthy. However, many couples find the lines of communication come to a complete halt during times of disagreement or conflict. Typically, one partner is making a demand while the other responds in silence.
The inability to keep the lines of communication open is colloquially referred to as ‘the silent treatment.’ It has been in practice for so long that many individuals may have learned it from watching their own parents interact during arguments or opposing opinions.
It may seem like mere stubbornness on the part of one or both parties, but in truth, behavioral science labels it as a ‘demand-withdraw pattern’, and it is highly toxic to personal relationships.
They want to determine what makes the difference between success and failure, from a scientific point of view. The Technical University of Lisbon along with Bangor University have developed and tested a behavioral intervention program to study the effects of women’s body image on her ability to lose weight.
The results of the research show a clear connection between how a person feels about her physical image and her ability to lose weight. The study, published in BioMed Central’s International Journal of Behavioral Nutrition and Physical Activity, shows promising results.