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Something Better Than Miracles

I'm not expecting anything extraordinary today.

After reading a slew of miracle-related memes on Facebook, I replied with my own meme.

There's something I prefer over expecting miraculous changes to come to pass in my life. I don't need the universe to deliver anything beyond the ordinary. And if you choose to call the ordinary a miracle, I'm good with that.

Embracing the ordinary, today I look forward to working hard at my business. I want...
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How to Stay Focused on the Positive Without Living in Fantasy

Summary: How can you stay focused on the positive when negativity is real?

Research suggests that focusing on positive outcomes correlates with self-esteem, but it would be foolish to deny that negative outcomes are possible. What's the solution?

According to an article titled Low Self Esteem published by Simply Psychology:

Research has shown key differences between individuals with high and low self-esteem. For example, people with high self-esteem focus on growth and improvement, whereas people with low self-esteem focus...
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Most Important Skill According to National Sample of Adults

Communication Skills Rank #1
Pew Research Center recently asked a national sample of adults to select among a list of 10 skills: “Regardless of whether or not you think these skills are good to have, which ones do you think are most important for children to get ahead in the world today?
The answer was clear. Across the board, more respondents said communication skills were most important, followed by reading, math, teamwork, writing and logic. Science...
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Two Steps to Successfully Adopt New Weight Loss Behaviors

Chances are if you need to lose weight, you also need to adopt some new behaviors and turn those behaviors into habits, right?

Just about everyone struggles with changing old behaviors or adopting new ones, and one activity that is particularly common to struggle with is exercise.

Every year around the first of the year, people begin to make resolutions to adopt new behaviors and drop old ones, unfortunately of the time to fail miserably.

According to Statistic...
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NLP Tip: What to do When You’re Self-Conscious

A lot of us deal with shyness, self-consciousness or social anxiety.

Some of us are even Smart Anxious Misfits!

When you're highly self-conscious and socially anxious, it's all too easy to clam up, disengage from others, and tail spin into panic.

At that point, the only goal is to get the hell out of wherever you are so you can regain your composure.

Is there anything can you do to take the edge off self-consciousness in...

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Weight Loss Adversity: Not Caring

An example of Seligman's ABCDE Method as applied to lacking of motivation for weight loss.

The ABCDE Method for overcoming adversity and altering limiting beliefs can be used as a journal exercise to support daily weight-loss efforts.

Take out a piece of paper. Write down the words: adversity, beliefs, consequences, dispute, and energize.

Then, begin to journal. Use the following sample as a guide.

Adversity: If I am 100% honest, I am not feeling motivated to do what I...
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NLP Tip: The “Worry-No-More” Technique

There are certain anxieties of life that may be necessary.

Worrying about your children in reasonable doses for example, can help you to take preventative action against things that could be potentially dangerous to them.

Taking precautions and having concern for your health provides motivation to eat well and exercise.

According to research cited by Science Daily,  worry can become a health hazard as well, however:

A new research study, led by a Case Western Reserve University faculty member...
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An Awesome Reversal for People with a ‘Rough Past’

In NLP we call it a reframe - the altering of meaning.

Most of us understand that we don't see the world as it is, but as we are. Theoretically, we have a choice in determining what things mean.

However, few of us consciously alter how we see the world. NLP reframing offers the tools to do that.

Here's an example from an iNLP Center student who was learning about reframing meaning. She'd had...
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Can My Marriage Be Saved? Four Tips that May Help

If you're asking: Can my marriage be saved?

Then I can sympathize with you. A good marriage can be an emotional, physical, psychological, and financial foundation for a stable life.

When your marriage is in question, life can feel so uncertain, and therefore unsafe.

Worse, a bad relationship can actually kill you (slowly). Addressing the uncertainty around saving your marriage is important.

At the same time, it's not an easy puzzle to resolve, is it? You...
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Allowing People to Get Under your Skin

A quick note to self about allowing people to get under my skin:

Dear Self,

When you allow people to get under your skin, you are giving them power to rule your mind and body.

Imagine giving your worst enemy a remote control that's attached to your nervous system.

Your enemy can simply push a button to amp you up or calm you down. Not a good idea.

Most people who get under your skin are not your true enemies....
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