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Think this Way about Tasks To Beat Procrastination

Procrastination is something that just about everyone has struggled with, whether with a monumentally large task or a small, less important one.

Many who struggle with procrastination regularly view the task at hand as a large, towering, overbearing giant that overwhelms them to the point of putting it off.

But, if you simply shrink the task, make it very small in your mind’s-eye; you will surely view it as less intimidating. As you set out to...
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3 Tips for Dealing with Worst-Case-Scenario Thinking

Do worst-case scenarios constantly run through your mind like polluted streams of consciousness?

You're not alone.

Imagining how things can go wrong is actually self-protective. Thank goodness we have the ability to foresee potential problems. We couldn't exist very well without it.

What happens, however, when our self-protective instinct goes haywire?

We end up forecasting failure and disaster, worrying constantly about things breaking bad. If this is the case with you, here are some tips to help you through worst-case-scenario...
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Eliminate this Word to Make Life Smoother

Even the simplest language patterns can be powerful.

Why not try this little experiment for a day to discover how much smoother your life goes?

Stop saying the word but. One day. No buts.

Why?

Because using the word but does two things to make life rougher:

1. Using but tends to negate everything said prior (whether you intend to negate or not).

word but supports a feeling of inner conflict (whether appropriate or not).

For example:


I love you, but you...
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Super Simple Conversation Starting Strategy for Introverts

This isn't just a one line conversation starter.

As an NLP practitioner, I'd prefer to offer a strategy that you can use over and over in various situations.

If you're shy, introverted or even a smart-anxious-misfit, you may find relief by committing this simple strategy to memory, keeping your eyes open, and following it.

Before spilling the beans, let's remember one important thing: average, non-socially anxious people love to talk about themselves.

I don't mean...
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Navigating Your Side, My Side and the Truth

Like most people, if I had a buck for every time I argued over what's true, I'd have a barn full of bills.

The reality is, most of us mistake "the truth" for our individual points of view.

When we say things like:

You're mean.
That's impossible.
You should do X, Y or Z.

We're really saying:

I experience you as mean.
That's impossible for me (or according to me).
Based on my individual experience, you should do X, Y or Z.

Rarely do we...
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Coaching and Therapy

Are Life Coaches Worth It? How to Know…

Are life coaches worth the investment?

Since your insurance will not cover life coaching, you'll need to pay out of pocket. Most life coaches charge between $200-500 per month.

If you've got the budget, asking yourself if life coaches are worthy of such an investment is a fair question.

The answer, of course, is not a simple yes or no. "Worth" is a subjective concept. Therefore, you should become very clear in your criteria...
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Dietary Supplement Curcumin May Actually Fight Off Cognitive Decline

Cognitive decline is something that many of us worry about, whether it’s due to genetics and dealing with family members who have suffered, or because we have been impacted by someone else dealing with it.

But according to some new research, the answer may lie in curcumin, a dietary supplement that is already renowned for so many health benefits.

According to an article titled “Turmeric: Doctors Say This Spice Is a Brain Health Breakthrough”...
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Coaching and Therapy

What World-Class Therapists and Coaches Think About You

Note: This is an opinion piece based on personal experience.

World-class therapists and coaches share a common view of people, in my experience working with colleagues over the years.

What's the view of people the best coaches and therapists share? People are works in progress. You are merely a work in progress. So am I.

That's it.

Of course, some therapists see their clients in terms of diagnoses. Some coaches see their clients...
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Three Reasons to Learn NLP from a Millennial’s Perspective

Should you learn NLP?

One of our students recently completed the NLP training, which stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. I asked her to give me the top three reasons she thinks people should learn NLP. Here is her response, as a millennial.

Her name is Courtney:

When I began to learn NLP by taking the NLP Practitioner’s Course, I thought I knew what to expect.

It was a psychology/personal development program that...
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