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5 Steps to a Sincere Apology that Works

Most of us were taught to apologize, but did we really learn how to do it effectively?

Apologies can fall short for a lot of reasons. On your side of the equation, learning how to apologize well (with completeness) may help restore peace and connection with others.

How to apologize well involves doing five things:

1) Confess
2) Say the words: I apologize
3) Demonstrate you understand (with specifics)...
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5 Reasons to Get Outside Right Now

We are often taught that being exposed to the sun in any way is detrimental to our body. From scares of skin cancer to  fear of wrinkles, the sun is considered a culprit.

The truth is, we need sunlight.

We buy hats, sunglasses, and smother our skin in toxic-chemical-laden sunscreen, depriving our bodies of any chance we had of absorbing some precious Vitamin D.

What most of us don’t realize is how good for us the...
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20 Ways People Deny their Own Wrongdoing

Some of these ways to deny wrongdoing are direct denials.

Others are some are downright subtle. Still, each and every example below is an attempt to avoid responsibility.

Interestingly, denial comes so naturally to all of us. Denial doesn't take sophisticated communication skills.

In fact it seems to require no effort at all!

1. Blame someone else.

Not my fault! Someone else is the cause of my behavior.

2. Blame self.

It’s not my fault…this is how I was created,...
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What To Do When You Make Mistakes

The first step is to realize humans are mistake-making machines. This is merely a fact that has nothing to do with self-esteem.

Both high and low self-esteem individuals make similar mistakes.

Those with low self-esteem tend to self-criticize when they make mistakes. Higher self-esteem folks tend to accept mistakes as part of life.

So, don't self-criticize, if you can help it. We're all that's that.

If you cannot help but criticize yourself, then you should look into self-sabotage and...
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Trump Manifesto: Citizen Therapists Speak Out

William J. Doherty, professor in the Department of Family Social Science in the College of Education and Human Development at the University of Minnesota, is organizing citizens who are therapists to speak out against Trumpism.

In a manifesto, Doherty warns therapists and Americans of the dangers of fascist-like movements.

Perhaps less worried about Donald Trump and more concerned with his potential successors, who may be less clownish and more able to organize a movement, the...
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How To Build Confidence When You Don’t Feel Any At All

Guest post by Jessica Sweet

It was 11 o’clock on a Monday morning when the call came in and Paula’s stomach clenched. She knew who was on the other end.

She picked up the phone carefully, but she could already hear her boss yelling.

It made her want to tell her boss to stop, and set a clear, professional limit. Instead, she listened meekly. . .

Matthew sat in the conference room as everyone else battled for...
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Free Mindfulness Webinar: How to Transform Negative Feelings

I'll be holding a free, no obligation, zero sales pitch webinar (soon) on transforming negative feelings.

Do you want to attend?

If so, you need to reply to the Facebook post pinned to the top of my page, here.

What we will do in this one-hour webinar:

• Learn the three ways we experience negative states.
• Increase awareness of feelings.
• Learn the simple steps to a healing method.
• (Perhaps) witness a live, unscripted demonstration.
• Gain a tool...
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NLP Coaching Can Help You Overcome Obstacles

This is a guest post by Landon Sapp

NLP coaching (NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming) has long been known to help people develop positive traits and habits.

It has also been used to treat depression, anxiety, phobias, and even biological symptoms.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming methods are typically used by practitioners and clinicians who specialize in applying NLP treatment. It is also commonly used by life coaches in their sessions with clients who strive to develop new behavioral patterns...
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Something Better Than Miracles

I'm not expecting anything extraordinary today.

After reading a slew of miracle-related memes on Facebook, I replied with my own meme.

There's something I prefer over expecting miraculous changes to come to pass in my life. I don't need the universe to deliver anything beyond the ordinary. And if you choose to call the ordinary a miracle, I'm good with that.

Embracing the ordinary, today I look forward to working hard at my business. I want...
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How to Stay Focused on the Positive Without Living in Fantasy

Summary: How can you stay focused on the positive when negativity is real?

Research suggests that focusing on positive outcomes correlates with self-esteem, but it would be foolish to deny that negative outcomes are possible. What's the solution?

According to an article titled Low Self Esteem published by Simply Psychology:

Research has shown key differences between individuals with high and low self-esteem. For example, people with high self-esteem focus on growth and improvement, whereas people with low self-esteem focus...
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