Archives for Beliefs


Balderdash! 3 Positive Thinking Myths You Need to Let Go

You must not allow yourself to dwell for a single moment on any kind of negative thought.
-Emmet Fox

Call me crazy, but I think the above quote from an early leader in the positive thinking movement is horrible advice  - for two reasons:

1. It's not possible.
2. Given that it's a set up for failure (by way of reason #1), it may lead you straight into self-critical (negative) thoughts.

Sometimes I think the greatest contribution to...
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Your Favorite Fear: A Novel Approach to Healing Anxiety

What is a favorite fear?

It’s your most familiar and most automatic fear reaction. A favorite fear is your mind and body’s pre-programmed response to specific situations.

Favorite fears are learned early on in life when you had no conscious choice. Therefore, they can feel like they are part of your makeup as a person. This also makes favorite fears seem impossible to let go.

Favorite fears are part of what I call psychological attachments. Even...
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Three Inner Conflicts that Can Halt your Progress in Life

Nothing puts the brakes on in life like inner conflict.

If  you've got it going on, you'll sit on the fence - unhappily and forever.

There are many expressions that refer to inner conflict:

• Sitting on the fence
• Being of two minds
• Having one foot in each camp
• A house divided
• On the and hand, this. On the other hand, that.
• Having mixed feelings

Bottom line: If you're in conflict, you are stuck. It's almost as...
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Negative Future Perception and the Vicious Cycle of Depression

Though the future is impossible to predict, it is easy to imagine.

This is the heart of depression in a theory devised by Ann Marie Roepke and Martin Seligman of the University of Pennsylvania.

After an extended review of literature on prospection (your mental perspective of the future), and depression, they found that the perception of negative futures can trigger depression.

Negative beliefs, poor evaluations of the future, as well as limited thinking about the future all contribute...
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A Grateful Heart is a Healthy Heart

It turns out that emotions play an important role in health, according to a study released early April by the American Psychological Association.

According to their findings, both recognizing and giving thanks for every positive moment and aspect of your life improves the body both mentally and physically as shown by patients with asymptomatic heart failure.

Typically attributed to those with higher levels of spirituality, gratitude can be attributed to any number...
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3 Ways to Stop Taking Things Personally

Do people get under your skin? Do you get offended or sucked into arguments too often?

You might find greater peace of mind and confidence by refusing to take things personally. This article will show you simple and helpful ways to do just that.

What is "taking things personally"?

Taking things personally happens when you interpret feedback as if it were reflection of your personal worth.

It's true, some comments may be about your...
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Two Reasons You May Not Feel You Deserve Happiness

When all the psychological smoke is clear, there remain only a couple of reasons why many of us feel undeserving of happiness.

1. You've been treated poorly by others in the past (including your parents). Because of this poor treatment, you concluded that you do not deserve to be treated well. Additionally, you do not treat yourself well, which leads to unhappiness.

2. You've violated your own moral values and hurt others...
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7 Things Emotionally Healthy People Do

If what you're doing isn't working, look to others for a better example.

How happy are you with your emotional health? If you could stand to function better emotionally, look to what emotionally healthy people tend to do. Use this list as a resource to highlight areas to focus on in your own life.

According to experts around the web, emotionally health people tend to do the following:
1. They are capable of understanding and expressing their...
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If I Speak Up, Bad Things Will Happen

There you are in conversation, holding back.

Of course you see the opportunities to share your opinions, ask questions and be heard. But what if you do speak up and someone gets offended? What if they ignore you? Worse, what if you make a total fool of yourself?

Keep quiet. That's the safest route.

Now, the safe route has problems of it's own. For one, you end up agreeing by default with things that you really don't...
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4 Benefits of Understanding your Core Values

Core values are concepts that fuel your decisions and motivation.

They are words like: health, freedom, security, love, relationships, trust, fun, adventure and so forth.

We turn these concepts into values when they are important enough to have a significant and consistent influence over our behaviors and decisions.

If you value health, then your actions will be aligned with preserving health. If you don’t value health that much, then your behaviors will be less likely to preserve...
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