An unhealed mind cannot be happy. In fact, an unhealed mind is hell-bent on misery.
Noticing the following signs of an unhealed mind is a positive step toward change.
Do the following signs apply to you? If you can see them in your life, then you already have a leg up! Be warned: I speak boldly about these issues. I can speak freely because I am not afraid to admit that they also apply to me.
Five signs of an unhealed mind
1. Mental and emotional misery
You experience mental commotion, self-criticism, runaway thoughts, bad habits, anxiety, depression, self-loathing and more. Your mind and emotions seem to operate on autopilot, out of your conscious control. Depending on your level of neurosis, your mind can feel like a psychic torture machine created just to make you miserable.
2. You experience your suffering passively
You do not see yourself as the source of all the suffering. Or, if you do see yourself as the source, you do not have the power or self-control to do anything about it. You remain a helpless victim – as if something were being done to you, rather than by you.
3. You are blind to the cause of your suffering
You seem to attribute your suffering to almost everything but the actual cause, which has never occurred to you and would shock and anger you if someone put it to you straight.
Worse, you may be convinced that your suffering is caused by people or circumstances that could never cause it. You may blame your spouse, your parents, your boss, your kids or your neighbor. You may blame “life” or God or your lack of education or opportunity. You may blame yourself; your inadequacy or inferiority. None of these is capable of causing the kind of suffering your experience within yourself, yet these are the common “causes” people find.
4. You resist solutions
When real solutions present themselves, you turn them away or even allow them to upset …