In a recent study, researchers from the University of Southampton and the University of Surrey have attempted to find out whether patients suffering from narcissism can learn to show empathy for another person’s suffering.
Their study, which is being published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, has shown that it may be possible.
One of the main hallmarks of narcissism is a lack of empathy for others. This has a negative effect on their personal relationships, social interaction, and social behaviors. In most cases, this is because their lack of empathy means that they are unconcerned with the effect their actions have on others.
For this study, researchers chose to focus on patients who exhibit subclinical narcissism. This diagnosis is given to patients who are psychologically healthy while still exhibiting some narcissistic traits. This form of narcissism is more common than narcissistic personality disorder.
To examine whether narcissists could be capable of empathizing with another person’s suffering, they asked study participants to read an excerpt describing the break up of a relationship. No matter how severe the hypothetical scenario was, high-narcissists did not show any empathy for the subject. This was true even in situations where the subject of the excerpt suffered overwhelming depression.
For several years at the iNLP Center now we’ve been developing the structure of what we call an Attachment to Rejection.
Understanding this psychological syndrome has been helping people who harbor feelings of rejection, hurt, humiliation, social anxiety, low self-worth and a variety of self-limiting beliefs.
Most interestingly, the insights that come with understanding this model tend to lead to behavioral change, which is very encouraging. It seem that this syndrome operates unconsciously. Bringing it into conscious awareness usually creates an aha moment. New choices come to mind thereafter.
Until now, we’ve only taught about the rejection attachment in our paid course, the AHA Solution. Recently, we’ve begun a new project to publish a clear structure of the syndromes, beginning with rejection.
It’s a work in progress. As we learn more about chronic feelings of rejection and low self-worth, we’ll update our findings. For now, you can view the explanation, signs, symptoms and unconscious workings of the rejection attachment on the following page:
The contrast may be clarifying and lead to choices that make self-love a greater possibility for you and me.
These are antithetical to self-love.
When you love yourself, you understand that you are not just a person, but a person among other people. You get that others are people just like you, with similar wants, needs, hopes, dreams, struggles and challenges.
So, you live your life working to balance your needs with theirs. This is not always an obvious or easy thing to do. Yet, you work at it anyway if you love yourself.
Some ways of dealing with negative self-statements are better than others. In this post, I’d like to show you how to deal with inner negativity by discovering if what you say to yourself is actually true.
And it may be. That’s not a problem at all. The point is to think one level deeper and stop reacting spontaneously to whatever thoughts go off in your mind.
Here are three examples of things you may say to yourself that you can question and begin to weed out the truth.
Life outside the womb is pretty good, but it doesn’t come with certain benefits that – let’s face it – we all miss.
For example, outside the womb we aren’t hooked to a magical tube that instantly satisfies our every physical need before we even feel the lack. And there is no warm, everlastingly protective cushion that surrounds us 24/7.
Beyond that, there are other people out here! And traffic sucks.
Still, here we are. Mature people learn to adjust to reality, but there’s no guarantee that these all important adjustments will occur all by themselves.
How’s it going for you?
To help out, here are 10 signs that you need to adjust to life on the outside
Crossroads are all important times in life when the opportunity to grow is at its highest. And it really can be intimidating. These are times when everything we’ve invested into life seems to be on the line.
But there is something even scarier to those on the path of true growth. It’s that you might miss a turn. You could just cruise right by a critical intersection and not even recognize the opportunity.
Living on autopilot is dangerous because there will come an inevitable day of regret. That day when you realize it’s too late to turn back and do what you were meant to do in life. And…you’ll have no one to blame but yourself.
It’s terrifying and sobering at the same time.
So, the number one resource in your tool kit must be self-awareness. Radical, courageous self-awareness. You’ve got to recognize the signs that life is calling you to make a change; to discover your decision points so that you can shape your destiny in the most constructive manner possible.
The Most Important Crossroad Of All
Mike Bundrant is a retired mental health counselor, personal coach and blogger for some of the top health, mental health and personal development websites in the world.
You’re busy making a living, keeping up with a family, and trying to stay ahead in this crazy, digital age.
If you’ve been working hard at living, chances are that you’ve found a place for yourself in the world, even though it may be an imperfect place.
And, you’ve found your fair share of stress as well. Your relationships can be complicated. You may be overwhelmed with how much you’ve got going on.
You may even be wondering if there is more to life than what you’ve managed to accomplish so far.
Worse, as midlife progresses, doing what you’ve always done to solve problems doesn’t necessarily bring you lasting satisfaction and fulfillment – not anymore.
Not for the special class of challenges that mid-lifers face. In fact, what you’ve always done to be successful may even backfire and create a sense of hopelessness and frustration.
When you find what you really need in your current stage of life, you’ve unlocked an important key to your happiness and continued growth.
Interestingly, if there is one thing that many unfulfilled people lack, it is the ability to take action in the direction of their dreams. This may be why personal development gurus – including those is the field of NLP – preach taking action so ardently.
This may also be why the personal coaching industry exists. People pay to be accountable to someone so that they can get themselves to take consistent action.
Everyone argues from time to time, whether it is with friends, family, or neighbors. While these arguments can be stressful, few people think about the health risks that may be involved if they continue to engage in these arguments. A new study has found that arguing with others frequently may increase the risk of early death.
The study was conducted by a research team from the University of Copenhagen in Denmark. In the past, similar studies have indicated that good social relationships with others can have a positive effect on a patient’s health and well-being. In this study, Dr. Rikke Lund and his team hoped to expand on this previous research and determine whether or not stressful social relationships could call early mortality.
Published in the Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health, the study analyzed 9,875 women and men between the ages of 36 and 52. These individuals had participated in the Danish Longitudinal Study on Work, Unemployment and Health. They were questioned on their everyday social relationships, focusing particularly on those relationships that caused worry or conflict. They then tracked the health of the participants from 2000 to 2011 using the Danish Cause of Death Registry.
A new study confirms what many skilled NLP practitioners have known for a long, long time.
For example, a new study conducted by psychologists at UCLA has shown that girls who are called fat by close relatives, friends, classmates or teachers before age 10 are more likely to become obese later in life.
The study examined 2,379 girls living in Washington, D.C., Northern California and Cincinnati. 58 percent of those girls reported being told that they were too fat at or before age 10. Girls were weighed and had their height measured at the beginning of the study, and again nine years later. The study found that the girls who had been told they were fat were 1.66 times more likely to be obese at age 19.