How do women who work so hard at relationships end up feeling less than? It’s a vicious cycle that is so important to understand. Read the evidence from a recent study, then learn how to cycle works to keep you down regardless of your efforts.
A new study conducted by Dr. Chris Bale of the University of Huddersfield has found that women who felt less desirable than their husbands work harder at keeping their spouse happy. Dr. Bale presented his findings at the British Psychological Society Annual Conference in April of 2013.
The study, published in the Journal of Marriage and Family surveyed older adults who were participating in the National Social Life Health and Aging Project and compared the characteristics of husbands and wives between the ages of 63 and 90 years old whose marriages had lasted an average of 39 years.
The study discovered that when the husband showed a higher level of positivity, the wife in a couple reported less marital conflict. Interestingly, positivity levels had no effect on their husbands’ reports of conflict.
According to Professor of Urban Sociology and director of the Center on Aging at NORC Linda J. Waite, the conflicts examined by the study primarily revolved around whether a spouse makes too many demands of their partner, perpetually criticizes the other, or gets on the others nerves.
Most in the conventional and alternative health communities accept that chronic, underlying inflammation is a root cause of degenerative diseases such as Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s/dementia, various forms of arthritis and even heart disease and cancer.
Results of medical research have been widely published. If you’re even mildly concerned about your health, then preventing chronic inflammation should be a priority in your life.
What causes inflammation? Most experts agree that lack of exercise and a toxic diet contribute to chronic inflammation, but there is another well-substantiated yet overlooked cause. I call it psychological inflammation.
Women’s Health Magazine published a reader-friendly definition of inflammation:
Most of us know how these emotional states inhibit us psychologically, but that’s not the whole story.
Feeling emotionally powerless also makes you physically weaker, according to science. Read the research summary below. Then move on to the three tips to increase your personal power.
Everyone has had a day where they just don’t seem to have the physical strength to accomplish everything required. New research has shown that your personal sense of inner power could be the cause.
According to a recent study conducted by scientists at the University of Cambridge in the UK and published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology, your state of mind can affect your physical strength. The researchers conducted a series of three experiments that tested a person’s mood and sense of power against physical tasks such as lifting boxes.
If arrogant people told the brazen truth, the following ten justifications might be used to explain their actions.
Here are 10 things they might say:
1. For starters, I am me and you are you. I honestly shouldn’t have to say more, but check out the rest of the list anyway.
2. You have no idea what it’s like to be me. You don’t know what I’ve been through, so you have no right to judge me fairly. Therefore, your opinion is irrelevant and you have no moral grounds to suggest that you are as good as I am.
Researchers from the University of California, Berkeley have found that people who suffer from chronic stress may experience long-term changes in their brain that makes them more prone to mood disorders and anxiety.
Associate professor of integrative biology Daniela Kaufer and a team of researchers have studied the hippocampus, which is the area of the brain that governs emotion and memory. They found that chronic stress causes the brain to generate fewer neurons and more myelin-producing cells than normal.
This results in more white matter in certain areas of the brain, disrupting the balance and timing of communication within the brain.
When it happens, you often end up doing the exact opposite of what would make you happy and successful.
If you were to look under the surface, you’d discover that most failed goals, relationships, businesses and dreams have deeply subconscious roots in self-sabotage.
It’s proven. People do settle. In fact, in one survey of 6,000 men, 31% of them openly admitted that they would settle for someone they didn’t love. And 21% even claimed they’d partner up with someone they found unattractive.
How many additional people settle, but would never admit it? How many people knew they were with the wrong person, even as they walked down the aisle?
Diving into this question takes us straight down the path toward the deeper issues in life, so let’s get to it. Here are four reasons why people settle, according to experience and research.
Imagine that you are driving down a country road. Suddenly, the road comes to a “T” – a three-way intersection that requires you to turn left or right.
You look up and notice the most puzzling road sign.
The sign says:
You cannot turn left or you will be in grave danger.
You must not turn right or risk serious injury.
You cannot stay where you are!
You MUST not go back!
Do something quick!
Confused, stuck, paralyzed, fearful, frustrated…
You feel this way because it is extremely important that you get out of this situation, yet there are no viable options.
Rudyard Kipling spoke these famous words to the Royal College of Surgeons in London in 1923.
Not only do words infect, egotize, narcotize, and paralyze, but they enter into and colour the minutest cells of the brain. . . .
Kipling understood how words can change the way another person thinks and feels, and influence people to do things they might not otherwise do.
Just like drugs.