If arrogant people told the brazen truth, the following ten justifications might be used to explain their actions.
Here are 10 things they might say:
1. For starters, I am me and you are you. I honestly shouldn’t have to say more, but check out the rest of the list anyway.
2. You have no idea what it’s like to be me. You don’t know what I’ve been through, so you have no right to judge me fairly. Therefore, your opinion is irrelevant and you have no moral grounds to suggest that you are as good as I am.
Researchers from the University of California, Berkeley have found that people who suffer from chronic stress may experience long-term changes in their brain that makes them more prone to mood disorders and anxiety.
Associate professor of integrative biology Daniela Kaufer and a team of researchers have studied the hippocampus, which is the area of the brain that governs emotion and memory. They found that chronic stress causes the brain to generate fewer neurons and more myelin-producing cells than normal.
This results in more white matter in certain areas of the brain, disrupting the balance and timing of communication within the brain.
When it happens, you often end up doing the exact opposite of what would make you happy and successful.
If you were to look under the surface, you’d discover that most failed goals, relationships, businesses and dreams have deeply subconscious roots in self-sabotage.
It’s proven. People do settle. In fact, in one survey of 6,000 men, 31% of them openly admitted that they would settle for someone they didn’t love. And 21% even claimed they’d partner up with someone they found unattractive.
How many additional people settle, but would never admit it? How many people knew they were with the wrong person, even as they walked down the aisle?
Diving into this question takes us straight down the path toward the deeper issues in life, so let’s get to it. Here are four reasons why people settle, according to experience and research.
Imagine that you are driving down a country road. Suddenly, the road comes to a “T” – a three-way intersection that requires you to turn left or right.
You look up and notice the most puzzling road sign.
The sign says:
You cannot turn left or you will be in grave danger.
You must not turn right or risk serious injury.
You cannot stay where you are!
You MUST not go back!
Do something quick!
Confused, stuck, paralyzed, fearful, frustrated…
You feel this way because it is extremely important that you get out of this situation, yet there are no viable options.
Rudyard Kipling spoke these famous words to the Royal College of Surgeons in London in 1923.
Not only do words infect, egotize, narcotize, and paralyze, but they enter into and colour the minutest cells of the brain. . . .
Kipling understood how words can change the way another person thinks and feels, and influence people to do things they might not otherwise do.
Just like drugs.
Research suggests that yes, you can. Doing what emotionally secure people do creates results.
What do emotionally secure people do? What follows is a list of good habits, based on research and years of experience studying people who seem to have it together.
Did you know that refusing to apologize may actually boost your ego? It gives you a false sense of moral superiority. This creates insecurity because you then must defend your ego, fearing that it won’t hold up to social scrutiny.
Apologizing leads to empathy.
Would you rather have a big (if fragile) ego or be connected to someone? Studies show that when you sincerely apologize, you receive empathy. This empathy is a powerful connection to another person.
In fact, millions of people who aren’t really ready find themselves in the middle of relationships that are going….badly.
Regardless of your status, you should know the following 10 signs that you aren’t ready for what you are doing, or about to do. Once you understand your limitations, then you can go to work on them and ready yourself, if you want.
Ignoring these 10 signs is the beginning of trouble in paradise.
Something goes wrong. What’s your first instinct? For many of us, it is to seek someone or something to blame other than ourselves. This may be human nature.
It is the next step that really kills relationships. After initially blaming, you set up a wall of defenses to lock the blame in place.
Acting defensively automatically turns your partner into an enemy. It’s hard to be intimate, emotionally, with an enemy.
In the first study of its kind, researchers at the Columbia University School of Public Health were able to link increased risk of obesity in women suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
PTSD has been more present in the news, especially as it relates to war veterans. This particular study helps scientists more definitively associate the brain-body connection initiated by exposure to trauma.
Today, I am going to eat a clean diet. And when I get off work, I am going straight to the gym.
At 7 AM Martin needs to prepare his healthy snacks and lunch for the day. He knows this is the right thing to do. Fix the salad, make a protein shake, pack up the chilled lunch bag, then head out.
He doesn’t do that, though. Instead, he says to himself, “I’ll be fine. I’ll find healthy food somewhere. I can even take the short walk to the grocery store on break and get a ready-made salad.”
At noon when its time to take a break, Martin faces the choice of grabbing some junk food off the cart or taking the 15 minute round-trip walk to the grocery store. He stares at the processed delights on the food cart
“Screw it!” he tells himself. “I’ll get back on my eating plan tomorrow. Right now I want a Snickers and a soda.”