The reputation you have with yourself – your self-esteem – is the single most important factor for a fulfilling life.
Nathaniel Branden

hugs from a young womanSelf-esteem pioneer Nathaniel Branden puts it all in context, doesn’t he?

Your self-assessment is the determining factor in your success. You set yourself up for success or failure. It is your judgment upon yourself that ultimately matters.

Think It Through

Let’s say you were to gain everything in outside world. Yet, at the end of the day, you still had low self-esteem. You have money, fame, cars, penthouse suites, lavish vacations and the approval of millions.

Yet, when you are alone with yourself, you aren’t at home. You’re not comfortable inside your own skin.

You hear a critical voice inside your head all day long. It says:

You should be doing more.
You’re not all that.
You’re ugly.
In spite of everything, you’re still a failure.
So-and-so is better than you.
If only people knew how awful you really are.

Would you be fulfilled by your all your material success?

Nope.

Countless moguls and celebrities have confirmed this truth. It is not the money and fame that makes you happy. It’s the state of affairs in your own soul. Your reputation among others may be important, but it will never be as important as your reputation with yourself.

Answer the following question:

Has low self-esteem prevented you from enjoying what you already have? List three things that you already have in life (a job, a friendship, a possession, a special talent or circumstance, etc…) that you could enjoy more by giving yourself credit and permission to do so.

1.

2.

3.

Enjoying what you already have is a HUGE self-esteem booster. How can you enjoy those things more? Stop suppressing the positive feelings that you already have.

Suppressing your positive feelings is a significant, scientifically researched phenomenon that kills enjoyment.

Web Reference: http://blogs.psychcentral.com/nlp/2014/05/common-baffling-mental-habit-linked-to-depression/

In other words, you already have positive feelings. They want to surface. Millions of people do not give themselves permission to feel them! When a positive feeling begins to rear its happy head, they pound it back down into darkness.

This is self-sabotage.

Allow the positive feelings you already have to come out and play. It’s a risk. Take it!

List three positive feelings buried inside you that want to come out and play, in light of what you already have that’s good in life:

1.

2.

3.

A tiny way to make it happen (the one-second self-esteem boost)!

Now, you’re ready for the one-second self-esteem boost:

Allow yourself ONE SECOND of conscious enjoyment today – just one second! For a mere tick of the clock, let one of these positive feelings break through. You’ll be glad you did! And the results will last longer than a second. I promise.

Tiny ways of making things happen are powerful. This is a well researched concept promoted by Stanford profession BJ Fogg of TinyHabits.com.

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    Last reviewed: 11 Aug 2014

APA Reference
Bundrant, M. (2014). The One Second Self-Esteem Boost (try it). Psych Central. Retrieved on October 31, 2014, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/nlp/2014/08/the-one-second-self-esteem-boost-try-it/

 

 

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