Solving Problems That Are Not Supposed To Exist
Many of life’s moral and emotional conflicts are tough to negotiate, even with the right education and professional help. Other dilemmas are forbidden. In our society, due to ignorance or social norms, you are not simply allowed to have them. How can you solve a problem that is not supposed to exist?
Worse, because of the taboo nature of some problems, you are likely to blind yourself to the cause of your feelings and live with unexplained emotional symptoms. Your therapist, very much a human being, is also likely to miss the cause of your symptoms, as she may be in the same boat, unable to address an inner conflict that she is not allowed to have. The blind can lead the blind, but they need to get real lucky…
What to do? Educate yourself!
New York based psychotherapist Jeanne Safer, PhD, is perhaps the world’s foremost expert on taboo topics. She is not afraid to address them in her own life and she is courageous enough to share her experience openly. Her books are a combination of keen psychological insight and training, mixed with boldness in sharing her own story.
Recently, I interviewed Dr. Safer on my Natural News Radio show, Mental Health Exposed. See the February 27, 2013 episode.
Dr. Safer’s books include the following:
Liberating Siblings from a Lifetime of Rage, Shame, Secrecy and Regret
Cain’s Legacy is an engaging albeit sometimes disturbing exploration of the complex lives of human siblings…. For those suffering troubled relationships with brothers and sisters, Cain’s Legacy may open a door to understanding why and perhaps the path to reconciliation.
Choosing a Life Without Children
Beyond Motherhood is about making a conscious decision not to have a baby–how to do it, how it feels, what it means, and the impact it has on your life. It grew out of personal experience, because this was the choice Dr. Safer made herself.
The Normal One
Life with a Difficult or Damaged Sibling
The Normal One is a first-of-its-kind book. Dr. Safer takes us into the hidden world of problem siblings and explores the far-reaching effects on the lives of those who are considered the “normal ones.”
How Losing a Parent Can Change an Adult’s Life—for the Better
Death Benefits breaks the final taboo and reveals the previously unexplored opportunities for growth that adults can discover after a parent dies and the grieving stops.
Forgiving and Not Forgiving
Why Sometimes It’s Better Not to Forgive
Forgiving and Not Forgiving: In our culture the belief that “To err is human, to forgive divine,” is so prevalent that few of us question its wisdom. But do we ever completely forgive those who have betrayed us? Aren’t some actions unforgivable? Can we achieve closure and healing without forgiving? Dr. Safer challenges popular opinion with her own searching answers to these and other questions.
What to do about problems that you are not supposed to have?
Turn to the brave souls who are willing to explore and resolve them, and share their stories. The way out of the double bind is to rise above it by learning something new.
Bundrant, M. (2013). Solving Problems That Are Not Supposed To Exist. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 26, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/nlp/2013/03/jeanne-safer-taboo/