jumpsDo you wish you were a more positive person?

Most people do. In fact, inner negativity is a universal problem. Your naturally positive nature is smothered in negativity.

The entire world is suffering with this issue, so you are not alone. To free your inner positivity, you need to release the negativity that covers it up.

Most people experience an inner negative voice saying things like:

You’re an idiot.
You can’t do that!
You could have…
You should have…
That’s not good enough.
Look at everyone else. They don’t have problems like you.
You are ugly.
You don’t deserve.
You’re missing out.
You’re a loser.

I could go on, but you know what I mean. If you aren’t aware of such a voice, but still feel negative feelings regularly, then listen more closely. It is there, whispering away! You have just taken it so for granted that it hasn’t dawned upon your consciousness yet.

My own negative voice says things like:

Who cares? It doesn’t matter – nothing matters. You don’t matter! Life’s a bitch and then you die.

When I give this voice power, it is a free ticket to irresponsibility, lack of discipline and feelings of low self-worth.

How to Stop the Inner Negativity

Don’t resist. It’s counter intuitive, I know. But, don’t resist it. Treat your inner critic, the dark side of your unconscious self – with respect. That’s the key. As soon you as begin to fight it, it wins.

This is terribly corny, but it reminds me of Darth Vader enticing Luke to give in to his hatred and fight back. Don’t do it! Don’t resent yourself for resenting yourself. Don’t criticize your inner critic – that’s the inner critic’s game and it will win.

A much better option is explained in this 5-minute youtube video I made called Disarm your Inner Critic.

If you work with your inner critic, rather than against it, soon you will learn to let it go. It will no longer have power to drag you down.

You are a naturally positive person, with positive desires and dreams of making the world a better place. The reality is, you also have a dose of inner negativity that can throw you for a loop. That’s fine. Use the tools in the above video and, over time, your positive nature will free up.

Patience. Impatience is one of the inner critic’s favorite weapons.

Thanks for reading. To stay up on all my latest stuff, please like my Facebook Page. To learn the deeper mechanics of inner negativity and self-sabotage, please watch my free video called The AHA Process.



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    Last reviewed: 20 Mar 2013

APA Reference
Bundrant, M. (2013). How to Free the Positive Person Inside You. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 31, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/nlp/2013/03/free-positive-person-inside/



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