2014: Girls Play Dumb
to Make Boys Feel Better

By Mike Bundrant

Mike Bundrant is co-founder of the iNLP Center for NLP training and personal development.

Teenage boys believe that girls their age should be less intelligent.

Teenage girls agree.

In 2014, teenage boys believe that a smarter, more capable girl makes them less manly.

Teenage girls play along, hiding their intelligence and talents so they don’t intimidate the boys. These are modern day teenagers, grade 8.

girls play dumb

This conclusion came as a result of an extremely unusual research project…

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The Common Mental Habit that Creates Negative Cascade of Stress Symptoms

By Mike Bundrant

Stress ManStuff goes wrong, right?

There isn’t a fix for that. We live in an imperfect world. The question is, are you doing the one thing that has been scientifically proven to take things from bad to worse?

The simple mental habit mentioned below has been shown to create the following symptoms:

• Chronic stress
• Reactive responses (as opposed to proactive responses)
• Low quality relationships
• Feelings of depression, isolation and despondence
• Lack of sleep

Recent research has pegged a mental habit – rumination – that guarantees low satisfaction, depressed mood and low productivity in people who do it consistently. The context of the study was a work environment, although it certainly applies in other areas of life.

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Surprising Reason Why Some Women Seek Affairs

By Mike Bundrant

women affairsThis focus of the study mentioned in this post is women who were seeking affairs in a particular manner. So, that’s the starting point.

I do not believe this study has credibility outside the specific population of women whose patterns were analyzed.

At any rate, the new look at why women have affairs reveals a provocative scenario, and raises some big questions.

Traditionally viewed, the role that married women are assumed to take when engaging in extra-marital affairs is thought to be driven by the need for love, emotional intimacy and affection.

Conventional wisdom suggests that women stray outside their marriage because they are emotionally dissatisfied.

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Silent Treatment Effects on Relationships

By Mike Bundrant

Mike Bundrant is co-founder of the iNLP Center for personal development.

Communication is the cornerstone to keeping an intimate relationship strong and healthy. However, many couples find the lines of communication come to a complete halt during times of disagreement or conflict. Typically, one partner is making a demand while the other responds in silence.

Sad couple having an argument sitting on bedThe inability to keep the lines of communication open is colloquially referred to as ‘the silent treatment.’ It has been in practice for so long that many individuals may have learned it from watching their own parents interact during arguments or opposing opinions.

It may seem like mere stubbornness on the part of one or both parties, but in truth, behavioral science labels it as a ‘demand-withdraw pattern’, and it is highly toxic to personal relationships.

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Research Reveals Positive Feelings Key to Weight Loss

By Mike Bundrant

Yes Word on Scale Lighter Weight LossWith 25% of the adult population of England and 33% of Americans tipping the scales of obesity, researchers are now investigating the psychology of weight loss success and body image.

They want to determine what makes the difference between success and failure, from a scientific point of view. The Technical University of Lisbon along with Bangor University have developed and tested a behavioral intervention program to study the effects of women’s body image on her ability to lose weight.

The results of the research show a clear connection between how a person feels about her physical image and her ability to lose weight. The study, published in BioMed Central’s International Journal of Behavioral Nutrition and Physical Activity, shows promising results.

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Lack of Quality Sleep Could Trigger Suicide

By Mike Bundrant

Alarm clock insomniaOver 14 000 senior adults aged 65 years and older were studied over a period of ten years by researchers from the Stanford University of Medicine. The results of this long-term study drew a troubling conclusion regarding suicide rates among the elderly population.

Published in JAMA Psychiatry, the findings of the study suggest that seniors who have difficulty getting proper sleep were much more likely to commit suicide than those individuals who reported having consistently good sleep and being well rested.

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4 Reasons Why Your Man Doesn’t Appreciate You

By Mike Bundrant

husband's attitudeAre you suffering from lack of appreciation from your man?

If so, you may find the following perspective on men to be very enlightening. It might even spur you into action to get the appreciation you deserve. It’s part of a larger work that I am involved in writing. I thought I’d test it out here on PsychCentral to discover what you think.

There is actually a lot of research behind the information here. Forgive me, I am still compiling it. Mostly I’m interested in how these facts jive with what you know to be true at the level of intuition and experience in your life.

Does the following ring true for you, even though you may have never considered it before?

It all begins with what I am calling (for now) the holy trinity of facts about men:

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Claim and Champion Your Inner Adult

By Mike Bundrant

Inner Adult

I’m thinking of developing a workbook to help people claim and champion the inner adult.

Here’s why: So many of us, myself included, do not simply march into adulthood without getting stuck. We struggle with leftovers from the past.

Emotional habits developed in childhood have a way to sticking to us with some sort of psychic glue. I call this glue psychological attachment.

So, doing “inner child work” makes perfect sense, right? Heal the inner child so you can let go of the pain and angst from days gone by. I agree.

Yet, if we don’t have our minds clearly focused on the prize – emotional freedom, maturity and adulthood – if we don’t consciously develop the skills and mindset of an adult, there is no guarantee that healing childhood pain will yield success in the adult world. It can only help, but there is no substitute for developing adult skills.

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The One Second Self-Esteem Boost (try it)

By Mike Bundrant

The reputation you have with yourself – your self-esteem – is the single most important factor for a fulfilling life.
Nathaniel Branden

hugs from a young womanSelf-esteem pioneer Nathaniel Branden puts it all in context, doesn’t he?

Your self-assessment is the determining factor in your success. You set yourself up for success or failure. It is your judgment upon yourself that ultimately matters.

Think It Through

Let’s say you were to gain everything in outside world. Yet, at the end of the day, you still had low self-esteem. You have money, fame, cars, penthouse suites, lavish vacations and the approval of millions.

Yet, when you are alone with yourself, you aren’t at home. You’re not comfortable inside your own skin.

You hear a critical voice inside your head all day long. It says:

You should be doing more.
You’re not all that.
You’re ugly.
In spite of everything, you’re still a failure.
So-and-so is better than you.
If only people knew how awful you really are.

Would you be fulfilled by your all your material success?

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Brain Poison: 7 Dangerous Metals in your Food (Names, Symptoms, Research)

By Mike Bundrant

heavy metals brain healthHistory’s largest mass poisoning of a human population has occurred in Bangladesh.

Because of it, 35 million people have been exposed to lethal levels of arsenic. Mortality rates are estimated at 13 per 1000, which means that this poisoning has ended as many at 455,000 lives.

It happened simply enough. In the late 1960s and 1970s, UNICEF and the World Bank, concerned that surface water in the area was causing too many cases of fatal diarrhea, funded the drilling of new wells. These deeper wells provided an abundance of fresh water to the booming population of Bangladesh and West Bengal.

There was one tragic oversight that sabotaged what might have been a monumental humanitarian achievement: They didn’t test the new wells for heavy metal content.

The negligence is hard to fathom, yet the damage pales in comparison to the negligence that occurs every single day in the world of big food manufacturers.

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