Anxiety Sufferers: You Might Just Be Too Smart

If you suffer from anxiety, social or otherwise, you might be tempted to think that your brain is just ‘broken.’

However, there is evidence to suggest that you might rather be - well - just too smart. There are two kinds of evidence to suggest this might be true: Scientific research and social corroboration.
First, the scientific evidence:
There is a proven correlation between high intelligence and anxiety.

Did you know that there is a correlation between...
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The Specific Forgiveness ‘Ability’ that Protects from Depression

The true test of a person’s character, in my opinion, is their ability to forgive others when they make mistakes. Being someone who has made many mistakes in my day, I am faced with some who have forgiven me, and some who to this day have not. Not being forgiven can be painful, and it has helped me to empathize with others when they happen to mess up, and genuinely feel bad about...
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21 Characteristics of Smart, Anxious Misfits

Are you a smart, anxious misfit?

If these words describe you, then compare the qualities listed below to your life. If the majority of them are true for you, then you very well might be a super smart, somewhat anxious social misfit. This can be a good thing!

Disclaimer: This article is NOT diagnostic in nature. 'Smart, anxious misfit' is not a clinical term. It’s a term I made up, pulled out of thin air.

Why? Because I can:)...
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Long-Term Damage of Controlling Parents? Research Tracks Children from their Birth in 1946

What are controlling parents like?

They do not allow their children to make age-appropriate decisions for themselves.

They do not tolerate their children holding different opinions.

They invade their children’s personal space, not allowing for privacy.

In general, controlling parents require their children to be dependent on a variety of levels.
What are the long-term effects of this kind of tight-fisted parenting?
According to researchers, the effects are similar in scope to the death of a loved one. In other words,...
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Closure Within Reach! A Simple Way to Finish Unfinished Business

Unfinished business consists of issues related to the past. These past experiences continue to preoccupy and affect present day choices.

Fear, discouragement, confusion, lack of purpose, and even long-standing relationship issues can be the result of unfinished business.

In other words, messages that you received about yourself or others in the past may be getting in the way of a healthy and happy present.

One effective way to finish unfinished business is to discover...
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Pay a Coach or Therapist by the RESULT?

What if life coaches and therapists only got paid by the RESULT?

For example, if you agree that you got a significant AHA moment during a session, then you pay. If not, then you walk away without forking over any of your hard-earned money. Hmm.

As a coach, I think could be up for that challenge. My offer would be: pay my fee only if you agree that you're truly thinking differently (and more productively) after talking...
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Jealousy Doesn’t Have to Cause Problems in Relationships

So your partner approaches the hostess at a restaurant to put your name on the list. He also manages to crack a witty joke and gets a laugh.

You’re instantly jealous, fearful and even resentful.

You’ve been planning this night out and, well, now it could be totally ruined. Your mind begins to race. Did he think she was cute? Why was he flirting with her? Why does he always have to do things like that? Maybe...
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5 Possibility Questions to Ask During Challenging Times

There’s no better time to open up to possibilities than when you are having challenges.

Today’s short post offers some questions that - if asked genuinely - will steer your mind in the direction of new options.

When you face challenges, the first thing to do is get your mind and emotions unstuck - and open to new ideas.
I hope the following questions help. They will certainly stretch your mind!
1. What if time allows me...
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5 Zinger Questions To Transform Your Romantic Relationship

Sometimes relationships can get a positive boost by asking penetrating questions.

These are not necessarily questions to live by. Yet, they are important to understand. The zinger questions can shed light on issues that potentially kill relationships.

Why not inform yourself of what could ultimately tear you apart?

Putting relationship vulnerabilities on the table gives you the daily opportunity to make sure the vulnerability remains in check. In most cases, understanding the answers to the...
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Treat Me Like the Scum I Am

Wondering if, to the degree that we have self-esteem issues, we unconsciously 'invite' others to treat us accordingly.

For example, if you don't like or trust yourself, you may be less willing to contribute to conversations. You may hold back and play dumb. Does this encourage others to see you as uninformed, incompetent, uncooperative or passive?

Or, perhaps you believe you're so worthless that others could never appreciate you. So, when there are opportunities to be seen...
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