27 Common, Twisted Thoughts That Block Happiness

By Mike Bundrant • 1 min read

If it weren’t for twisted logic, life might be too boring for many of us.

Most people I know, myself included, have a knack for twisting the truth. And some of the time that little twist is a perfect happiness block.

What follows are 27 examples of how you can prevent the happiness that might have been yours. All it takes is a tiny, twisted whisper in your mind.

liespreventhappinessHere are 27 examples of twisted thoughts that block happiness:

1. When I am happy, bad news is coming, because happiness can’t last.

2. When I am happy, I am setting myself up for disappointment.

3. When I am happy, people expect more of me.

4. When I am happy, I have no excuse to be lazy.

5. When I am happy, I am letting my negligent parents off the hook.

6. When I am happy, it will draw too much attention to me.

7. When I am happy, I’ll have to be nice to people I don’t like.

8. When I am happy, I am deluding myself.

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Punch Failure in the Face: Here’s How

By Mike Bundrant • 2 min read

Do you want to eliminate all obstacles in the way of your goals?

You can. I’m going to show you how, right here and now. In fact, you’re going to punch failure right in the face and knock it out.

punch3The process begins by recognizing self-sabotage. Don’t worry. It’s all going to be obvious by the end of this post.

Self-sabotage: the truly nasty tendency to do the very thing that hurts you.

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4 Relationship-killing Words You Use Every Day

By Mike Bundrant • 2 min read


Building strong relationships with others is essential in all areas of our lives: business, friendships, dating, parenting, etc. However, our daily word choices can undermine our attempts at getting closer to other people.

We can unwittingly be marking ourselves as untrustworthy, judgmental, and belittling when we use the following words in our everyday interactions.

Language is important! Beware how you use the following words…

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Four Bottom-Side-Up Self-Esteem Tips

By Mike Bundrant • 2 min read



Throw out convention.

It’s time for some counter-intuitive tips to increase your self-esteem.

These self-esteem tips work. And they will work for you if you practice them with an open mind.

One of the hallmarks of healthy self-esteem is self-respect. Self-respect involves accepting and honoring every part of you. Let’s stop pretending that our darker natures don’t exist and begin to respect ourselves on every level.

The following tips will move you squarely in that direction.

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Research Reveals Secret to Forming New Habits

By Mike Bundrant • 1 min read

New goals, old habits

According to research, 40% of people’s daily routines are habitual. Built over a lifetime of repetition, these habits seem to occur almost on their own.

Wiping your shoes on the mat; drinking coffee in the morning; having a cigarette while talking on the phone.  Little things, like which sock you put on first, to locking your car doors, are habitual traits that require no conscious effort.

At the American Psychological Association’s 122nd Annual Convention, Wendy Wood gave an in-depth explanation about how habitual patterns work, as well as how to break them. She gives insight into why many diet fads and self-help books don’t work, as well as measures people take to make positive changes from old habits.

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Research Reveals Key to Make Learning Easier

By Mike Bundrant • 1 min read


The human mind is an intricate marvel of complexity and adaptability. Yet there are undertakings that seem relatively easy to some people, but prove to be a tremendous challenge to others.

What determines if a new task is easy or difficult to learn? In NLP, we draw on existing, familiar, internal resources and apply them to the currently learning process. The following research reveals that this is a good strategy.

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5 Signs That You are Depriving Yourself of Happiness

By Mike Bundrant • 1 min read

hugs from a young womanHappiness is the result of choices and so is unhappiness. The problem is, many of our choices happen outside conscious awareness.

To increase happiness, you may need to think outside the box. What follows are four ways we commonly deprive ourselves of happiness. They usually occur on autopilot, without conscious choice.

Once we understand them, we can take actions to remedy the negative effects.

Here they are:

1. Suppressing Positive Emotions

Squashing positive emotions that naturally surface throughout the day is shockingly common. In fact, research reveals that suppressing positive emotions is a common yet little-known cause of depression.

This is actually good news. It means that you do have spontaneous positive emotions that surface regularly. If you learn to avoid chasing them away, then these uplifting emotions might stick around longer.

Pay attention to when you feel positive emotions wanting to rise. Then allow yourself to feel them!

2. When you are happy, you get nervous.

The late Nathaniel Branden called it happiness anxiety. It happens when you become nervous after a period of feeling happy. Many people subconsciously believe that happiness can never last. Something will always come along to ruin it.

So, they preempt the bad news by ditching happiness before they are inevitably hurt or disappointed. It’s sort of like breaking up with someone because you’re afraid they’re going to break up with you.

When you’re feeling happy, reassure yourself that if bad news comes, you can deal with it. Until then, allow yourself to enjoy it!

3. You keep yourself distracted.

Some of us stay too distracted and busy to enjoy much of anything. Happiness seems to be related to slowing down.

Making too many commitments, endless to-do lists, lack of personal boundaries (can’t say no), obsession with your electronic device – all of these distractions may be direct obstacles to your inner state of happiness.

4. Obliterating Happiness Through Self-Criticism

There’s no better way to destroy happiness than to criticize yourself. And the relentlessness of it for some of us is astounding. Self-criticism prevents happiness. And it obliterates any happiness that might slip through the cracks.

Self-criticism may be the number one symptom of psychic masochism, or self-sabotage. To gain peace of mind, you must deal with the part of you that seems to have it in for you. No way around this one.

Start by calming listening to your self-criticism. They’re just words going off in your mind. As you learn to listen without reacting, the words will have less effect on your emotions.

All of the above are common signs of self-sabotage. To learn more about how self-sabotage works and how to stop it, watch this free and enlightening video.

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85% Report Increase In Willpower Through Free Online Course

By Mike Bundrant • 2 min read

willpower surveyIn a recent voluntary survey on willpower, 85% of participants reported an increase in willpower through a free, 5-day online willpower boot camp conducted via email.

As of this writing, 121 people have participated in the online willpower course. Updates may be posted at intervals as more data is acquired from future participants.

Participants registered for the course on a voluntary basis and paid no fee. For five consecutive days, participants received an email that asked them to report their results.  A final survey delivered the results show below.

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Weird Community Of Twisted Ones

By Mike Bundrant • 1 min read

Imagine being in a community of people where social conformity demanded being genuine in the extreme, not fake.

twisted onesThe norms in such a community would be quite different than what we are used to.

In fact, we’d have to call this community “twisted” according to our standards.

In a community of Twisted Ones, you have to speak the truth about what you really want and where your deepest motivation lies. And it is never a mystery.

Discovering what you want is as simple as looking at what results you have produced.

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7 Steps to Create High Willpower

By Mike Bundrant • 4 min read

thThis is the time of year to dig deep and muster some willpower, right?

What if you did more, however, than muster what you’ve got?

This article contains systematic steps to increase your willpower far beyond what you’d expect under typical circumstances. Just read and follow the steps.

If you come to believe this will help you, you can also register free of charge to be guided through the following steps over a period of five days with the iNLP Center 5-Day Willpower Boot Camp.

Here are the steps!

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