Love and Romance Articles

Loving Beyond Projection: “The Enchanted Cottage”

Saturday, May 28th, 2011

The film The Enchanted Cottage (1945) shows love developing between two people based on their knowledge of one another, in direct opposition to the film Sleepless in Seattle (1993) which shows love between two people who have never even met. The latter serves to perpetuate certain fantasies that we have about romance: that there is someone out there just perfect for me, that my life will be complete once I meet him or her and, lastly, that I don’t even have to know (or get to know) this person to feel certain they are my soul-mate.

‘Love and Other Drugs': Narcissistic Love

Monday, May 9th, 2011

‘Love and Other Junkies’, starring Jake Gyllenhaal and Anne Hathaway, relies on the Hollywood romantic comedy formula but makes some interesting observations about narcissistic ‘love’ along the way.

Self-Abnegating Love in ‘The War of the Roses’

Tuesday, April 12th, 2011

A discussion of the perils of self-abnegating love as portrayed in The War of the Roses (1989) starring Michael Douglas, Kathleen Turner and Danny Devito.

A Look at Women’s Arc of Transformation Through Three Films: Woody Allen’s “Alice”

Saturday, April 2nd, 2011

rosemary06PART III (of 3 parts)
Our third film, Woody Allen’s Alice, made in 1990, stars Mia Farrow. Unlike Darling or Madame Bovary, Alice becomes conscious and starts growing into her destiny with the help of her guide, Chinese herbalist Dr. Yang.

Many women’s journeys end up in the same place, whether single, married, divorced, widowed, with or without children: a journey to find the particular meaning of their own life.

A Look at Women’s Arc of Individuation through Three Films: Madame Bovary

Thursday, March 31st, 2011

Inflight EntertainmentPART II (of 3 parts)
Our second film, Madame Bovary (c.1950), is based on Flaubert’s classic 1857 novel.

Jennifer Jones plays our heroine, Emma, whose overriding dream is to live out the myth of romantic love. Flaubert presents her in a compassionate light, believing her plight could be that of many women of that time, if they only had more courage to try to break free of their dissatisfaction.

Emma goes through many steps in trying to find her happiness: marriage, a home, a child,  self-value through her husband’s accomplishments, being attractive, having affairs and material possessions.

From a young age, she had been exposed to many romantic books of the time, which fed her very active fantasy life. When Dr. Charles Bovary arrives at the family farm to tend to her father, her imagination is galvanized. She sees him as someone to rescue her, just like in the stories she grew up with. Charles assesses himself accurately as “just a country doctor, and not a particularly good one”, but her need to idealize him blinds her.

Bowing to Fate, Growing into Destiny: A Look at Women’s Arc of Individuation through Three Films

Tuesday, March 29th, 2011

PART I (of a 3-part series)

Jungian analyst and author James Hollis says we can bow to our fate—acknowledge and accept what cannot be changed, our “givens” such as parents, background, conditioning, early wounding and so forth. Beyond that, we can grow into our destiny and become all that we can become.

Today, long after the advent of the liberation movement, women are still seeking their destinies, both personally and in the larger world. This series of films (to be presented in three parts) describes a certain arc of female psychological evolution, mapping a part of the territory of both the individual and cultural journeys some of us may take.

The Adjustment Bureau: True Love Conquers All, After All

Tuesday, March 22nd, 2011

The adjustment bureau movie posterThe film, The Adjustment Bureau, operates under the metaphysical idea that “The Chairman” has a life plan for each of us, employing angels who make sure we stay on our pre-ordained track. Even though the film lightly touches on questions of free will, fate and destiny, what is especially noteworthy is it concludes that true love conquers all, and furthermore trumps anything else in life worth living.

David Norris (Matt Damon) is an up-and-coming political hopeful who runs into dancer Elise Sellas (Emily Blunt) on the eve of losing the election for a Senate seat. (We come to find out this chance meeting has been arranged by “up above” to inspire David to deliver a memorable defeat speech). Their fateful encounter has an other-worldly feel to it, a feeling of already knowing the other, which many of us recognize as love at first sight.

Blue Valentine: What is Love?

Monday, March 7th, 2011

For Better or For WorseThe movie Blue Valentine is like a Zen koan, a paradoxical riddle with no answer which encourages us to ponder things in new ways. Ostensibly this particular koan asks us to wonder about what goes wrong in love, but perhaps a more fundamental question is what is love in the first place?

Some of the themes Blue Valentine explores is how much of what we call romantic love is about the reenactment of unmet needs, trauma and role modeling in our family of origin, and the possibility of growing beyond these patterns.

The film moves back and forth through time, showing the beginning and ending of a relationship, inviting us to look closely at our own ideas about love.

A Realistic Portrait of Married Life: ‘The Kids Are All Right’ (2010)

Thursday, February 17th, 2011

A realistic portrait of the rewards and challenges of long-term relationships as portrayed in ‘The Kids Are All Right’ (2010) with Annette Benning, Julianne Moore and Mark Ruffalo.

The Transformative Power of Love in ‘Groundhog Day,’ Part II

Thursday, December 30th, 2010

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