British author Aldous Huxley, most famous for his book Brave New World, spent his life digging into the world’s problems and through that experience inevitably became quite a spiritual man. I guess it rings of Rumi’s quote, “Don’t turn your gaze. Look toward the bandaged place, that’s where the light enters. Late in his life at one of his final public speeches he said something illuminating, “It’s a little embarrassing that after 45 years of research & study, the best advice I can give people is to be a little kinder to each other.”
What would life be like if we each practiced being 10% kinder each day?
10% kinder to ourselves.
10% kinder to one another.
Would we be a bit more giving and forgiving? Would we feel a bit safer? Would we be a bit happier? Would we feel a greater sense of belonging? This is certainly what Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and weekend edition of Good Morning America found out through his practice of mindfulness meditation. He inevitably authored the NY Times bestselling book 10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works–A True Story.
There’s a power to kindness and it seems to have some emotional contagion to it as well.
When you’re driving by the toll booth and you choose to pay for the person behind you, it seems to bring a smile to their face. Something about that act was contagious. They then feel a bit more inspired to be kind and generous as the day goes on.
Being a bit kinder doesn’t have to take much effort. Have you ever noticed how smiling is also contagious. Even a simple act of smiling is practicing kindness.
The wonderful thing about kindness is that it’s portable and it’s free. We can do it anywhere and anytime.
We can even do it alone.
Consider all the moments of the day when that self-critic arises telling you that you’re not good enough, or that you’ll never get ahead, or something is wrong with you. This is a moment of difficulty and if you heard someone talk to your friend that way, you might move in and comfort your friend. That would be an act of kindness.
We can practice this self-kindness or self-compassion in four steps:
Remember, the immediate outcome isn’t the point; it’s more about giving your brain practice in kindness. If there’s one thing we know about the brain, it’s that when you intentionally practice and repeat something, over time it starts to feel more natural as it becomes automatic.
What would the world be like if at the tip of people’s moment to moment intention was to be a little kinder? What would the world hold for future generations?
What’s going to be your 10% kinder act today?
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Last reviewed: 3 Dec 2014