3 Steps to Evolving Valentine’s Day: A Day of Connection and Compassion
It’s a dreaded day for some and a joyous for others. Whether we like it or not, Valentine’s Day is around the corner. Since the 11th century it’s been a time representing romantic love and by the 15th century it was a day to express love with flowers and greeting cards of some kind. But maybe there’s even another evolution that this day can take. Can it be that we can include romantic love but even make this day a day of greater meaning that transcends and includes romantic love?
In my mind it’s the case that all people, if not all beings, at the core want to feel like they belong and that they’re loved.
Why not make Valentine’s Day a day for all people in the greater relationship of humanity. This is a day where if you’re in a relationship you can have your romantic version and also a wider Valentine of all humanity, enhancing intimacy and compassion.
Here’s a rich three step Valentine practice for the couple, yourself, and for all people:
- Romantic Couple Valentine:
May you feel loved, May you feel accepted, May you feel free, and May you feel at peace.
- Individual Valentine:
May I feel loved, May I feel accepted, May I feel free, and May I feel at peace.
- Everyone as a Valentine:
May we all feel loved, May we all feel accepted, May we all feel free, and May we all feel at peace.
If you’re part of a couple do this with all three. If you’re not, you can do step one with a good friend in mind.
The meaning of Valentine’s Day has evolved through the centuries. We can make this the next evolution of it starting today, deepening intimacy with ourselves, our loved ones and the rest of humanity.
Practice this and see what you notice.
As always, please share your thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from.
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Goldstein, E. (2013). 3 Steps to Evolving Valentine’s Day: A Day of Connection and Compassion. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 26, 2016, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/mindfulness/2013/02/3-steps-to-evolving-valentines-day-a-day-of-connection-and-compassion/