There is No Way to Happiness, Happiness is the Way
Here’s is a quote from the blog post 10 Quotes for a Mindful Day by the influential author and mindfulness teacher, Thich Nhat Hanh:
“There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.”
It can sometimes seem like we are on a lifetime quest to achieve happiness. “Once I find my soul mate, then I’ll be happy,” or “if I get that promotion, then I’ll be happy,” or “once I’m making this or that income, then I’ll be happy.” Woven within the mere thought itself is a sense of being “less than” you want to be, which therefore makes you less happy than you were before that thought even arrived.
Some might argue that it’s not the conditions of our lives that make us happy (although some can certainly help at times), it’s the way we relate to ourselves and our lives that provide the happiness. It’s the way we walk through life.
In other words, we’re always practicing something. If we spend our time wrestling with negative, excessive worrying, or hopeless thoughts, we’re practicing unhappiness. If we spend our time noticing and acknowledging these unhelpful habits of the mind, without judgment, we can then choose to turn our attention to matters that walk in line with greater happiness and sense of peace.
In the realm of behavioral therapy, a therapist might say, “what would you be doing differently if you were happy?” Some people might answer, “I’d be smiling more,” or “I’d be riding my bike,” or “I’d be spending giving more to others.”
Then the response from the therapist would be, “now let’s put these into action.”
Sometimes we need to put our feet in front of our heads and then our thoughts and emotions will follow. We don’t have to climb Mount Everest, but if all we can do is take even one step in that direction, it can make a difference.
Try: What would you do if you were happy or what have you done when you’ve been happy? Write these things down and begin practicing them. Don’t take my word for it, try it yourself and see what happens.
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Goldstein, E. (2012). There is No Way to Happiness, Happiness is the Way. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 31, 2016, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/mindfulness/2012/06/there-is-no-way-to-happiness-happiness-is-the-way/