mediating peopleA while back I wrote the blog Neuroplasticity, Gratitude, and Your Mental Health: Food for Thought and thousands of people viewed it and were reminded of the really powerful effects of counting blessings over burdens.

This made me think of two critical elements that can help shape our happiness and success.The first is proactively looking at what it is we actually want in life. The second is looking at a key element that can help prime our minds toward the happiness and success we are looking for.

So here we are, in this moment right now, a space of awareness and choice to intentionally reflect on these 4 very important questions to help give you the support to making the change you’re most interested in.

  1. Think back to when this year started — what were your expectations?  What did you want/hope for? Have any of those begun to manifest?
  2. In this past week, what are you grateful for?
  3. What are your intentions for the rest of the year, how would you like to be (e.g., more calm, a better listener, more focused, kinder to yourself and others, more present to friends and family?)
  4. Looking forward, what are you wishing for yourself (e.g., health, feeling safe, free from fear, happiness, a sense of peace)?

Take this into the hours, days, weeks and months ahead. Making change stick is about setting an intention and repeatedly coming back to review that intention as if it was a doctor’s appointment. Repeatedly coming back and reviewing your intentions is an important thing to do to ensure making the changes you want to make.

BUT, there is something potentially even more important and that is controlling the environment you live in to maximize opportunity to make that change.

What does that mean?

Who do you surround yourself with? Is there a way to put people in your life who are supportive to the changes you want to make? That will maximize your potential.

This is exactly why I created The Now Effect Community, a free resources to support you with daily now moment reminders, a weekly support letter and a free live online monthly call where I and other special guests (i.e., Rick Hanson, Tara Brach, Sharon Salzberg, and more) share a teaching and interact with you live to answer your important questions. You can register now for free, first call is with me starting Wednesday at 12pm PST. You don’t need to have all levels of support, just customize it and choose the one you want.

The factors included in making change truly happen are your intention, effort, strategy and controlling your environment. The latter is key to priming your mind toward success.

As always, please share your thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from. 

People meditating photo available from Shutterstock.



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APA Reference
Goldstein, E. (2012). The Necessary Ingredient to Prime Your Mind Toward Happiness and Success. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 1, 2015, from


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