overflowing inboxIn my life, as in many peoples’, my in-basket is never empty. A story is created in my mind that there is so much “to do” that “I don’t have time” for the less important tasks. I have clients that I see along with a number of projects that I engage with when I’m not seeing clients. This morning I found that same story about not having time invading my mind, creating tension in my shoulders and making me irritable.

My 2 year old son has an abundance of energy (as many of them do) and wanted to get outside with me for a little bit. In the face of the screaming voices inside my head telling me to “get to work” I decided to take him out. What happened?

As we walked outside and started to play I realized that I don’t have that much time before he grows from this stage of life. My mind imagined him as a teenager not wanting to spend time with me, but wanting to be alone or with his friends. It then jumped to him at 18 heading off to college (at least that’s my idea for him). I thought, “I’ll never be able to return to this time of life, but I’ll always be able to return to my work.”

In that moment I gave myself permission to be with him for 15 minutes and soak in this time of life. This is what I have termed present nostalgia, allowing the mind to recognize the sweet precious impermanence of this time while actually living it.

Is it really true that we don’t have the time to live as if it mattered or is this just a story in our minds?

You tell me.

Please share your thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from.

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APA Reference
Goldstein, E. (2011). One of Life’s Greatest Fallacies. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 30, 2014, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/mindfulness/2011/07/one-of-life%e2%80%99s-greatest-fallacies/


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