As soon as we open up our eyes in the morning, stories are running in our minds that influence the way we see people. We have preconceptions about who our wife, husband, kid, roommate or partners are. When we walk out the door we already have ideas about who the neighbors, baristas, grocery store clerk, colleagues, and even strangers who are walking up the street are.
So the question is: Do we actually even see the person behind our conceptions of who they are?
Most of the time the answer is a resounding no.
Mother Teresa who said:
“The biggest disease today is not leprosy or tuberculosis but rather the feeling of not belonging.”
We live on auto-pilot in our every day relationships and our ability to automatically interpret the world can lead to disconnection, which leads to dis-ease in life.
It’s that simple.
Here is a practice to try out today with anyone you come in contact with:
We can always ask ourselves if what we are doing is in service of connection or disconnection. It’s a simple question that can sometimes lead to important answers and actions.
The fact is, when we or others around us feel understood and cared about a sense of acceptance and belonging arises. This breaks down a barriers and simply makes relationships better. Like anything, this takes practice.
A moment of connection may have rippling effects across many people, like a pebble thrown into the water creates ripples of waves.
Give it a try!
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Last reviewed: 1 Nov 2010